My (30f) husband (31m) won't talk to me until I get a job

My husband and I are both working towards licensing in the medical field. Initially, I was going to school first and he was working full time to support us. I was getting my prerequisites out of the way. When I got accepted into medical school, he quit his job and started his own company. It was very successful and he was making a lot more than he was before, enough to support us. Our agreement was that he would work 40 hours a week and I would go to school full time. It's not an ideal situation, but I wouldn't have to worry about money on top of school and he could keep his business running. <br><br>He has expanded his business a lot and now he is working around 80 hours a week. He doesn't have time to do the little things like laundry or cooking anymore, which is fine. I pick up those slack because I get a lot of time to myself while I study and I can do those things. The problem is that he also doesn't have time for our child anymore. He barely spends time with her, doesn't attend anything important that she has going on, and doesn't even see her everyday anymore because he is always at work. I understand that he is trying to make a good future for us and I'm not mad at him for that. <br><br>The problem is that I feel like I'm struggling by myself to care for our baby, maintain the household, cook, and go to school. It's exhausting and I barely have time to study because I have so many responsibilities to everyone else and not enough time to myself. He gets up at 5am and goes to bed at 10pm, so I don't even get to see him much. I've tried talking to him about possibly hiring someone because he obviously has the means, or going back to his old job so he can spend time with our daughter and pick up some slack around the house. <br><br>He told me he doesn't have time to hire anyone right now because he is too busy. He called me lazy for not being able to handle my responsibilities. He said it's not his fault he's working so much and that while he's out working I get to sit at home and do nothing all day. He said that if I really cared about our daughter, then I could do it all by myself. It now has been 3 weeks since we've spoken other than through text messages. He works until 9pm, then goes to bed immediately when he gets home and I don't see him until the next night and the cycle repeats. <br><br>I don't know what to do because I love studying and I want to become a good doctor. Right now I'm barely passing classes because I'm so tired all the time that I don't have the mental energy to retain information and focus well enough to do well in school. I know I need help. Where do I get it? I can't hire anyone because my husband doesn't want to pay for that. I have reached out to my family for help but they all think I'm being lazy because my husband is successful and I don't have to work. My friends have told me to stop being lazy and hire a nanny. I've tried talking to my husband a million times and asking him to hire someone or go back to his old job, but he just says no and doesn't want to talk about it anymore. He said the only thing he will talk to me about is when I get a job to help with the finances.<br><br>Is there anything else I can do? I don't know what else to try at this point.<br><br>Edit: Holy hell, I didn't expect this many responses. Thank you all for the words of wisdom and advice. I am going to try couples counseling first and go from there. I did attempt to get a job last year, but it didn't work out because I didn't have time to study while working. I think I am going to try again though, because right now my mental health is at an all time low and I need to do something to feel better. Thank you all very much and I love you internet strangers! <3