I (28/F) blew up at my boyfriend (29/M) because he wouldn’t give me a cookie and I do not regret it

So this fight started out with me wanting a cookie. It was not about the cookie. My boyfriend brought home 3 chocolate chip cookies for us to split for dessert. We have 2 kids (2 years and 2 months). I have been home all day with both and then threw in a workout, cooking, cleaning, bath time for both and several other tasks. After we were done feeding the kids and before we ate dinner I asked for a cookie because I was feeling stressed. He said no and told me to get something else because he was going to split the cookies with the 2 year old. <br><br>I got so angry for some reason and I probably overreacted. I yelled at him, I asked if he is ever going to appreciate me. I asked if he will ever see me. If I will ever be considered in any decision. I told him he is so selfish and he does not consider my needs in any decision. I told him he has never acknowledged anything I do for our family. I told him he has never acknowledged the fact that I push out babies for him and deal with the aftermath of child birth. I told him that he is lucky I have not left him and I’ve squared with staying with him through his transition out of the Army because I knew it would be hard, but now he needs to start being there for me. That I need his support and his appreciation. <br><br>He was stunned, he has no idea how I got off the subject of cookies so quickly. He told me “wow I’m sorry I didn’t think you wanted a cookie so bad. I didn’t mean to hurt your feelings. Here is half of mine.” I snatched the cookie from him and ate it. He looked like I had slapped him across the face. A few days later when we were calm and talking he told me that it hurt his feelings that I could go from happy and not upset to so angry in seconds. He told me that he feels like I have a lot of pent up anger that I need to work on. That he does not want to have another situation like this where I blow up at him for no reason. He apologized for his ignorance but he does not want to live like this. I told him it’s not pent up anger, it’s a change in how I view myself. I do not have to accept being ignored. I have to value myself and I have to express my needs. I accept that I will get angry and that is ok. I told him he needs to look at his own behaviors instead of accusing me of being a angry person. <br><br>He looked at me like I told him to fuck off. Is it me? Should I be less angry and less offended?