UPDATE: My (25F) boyfriend (26M) is really strict on my drinking, but I don’t drink a lot.

Hello, thank you for all of the responses. I think I may have accidentally worded things wrong in my first post. I am not a recovering alcoholic, I am definitely drinking while with him, and I do not drink at work. <br><br>To start this off - he doesn’t know that I posted this, and it’s just for reassurance. I don’t plan on getting advice on how to do anything about this, but more just want to see what people think. Please be kind and non-judgmental, I have been with him for almost 10 years and I love this man. <br><br>ORIGINAL POST:<br><br>I have been with my boyfriend for almost 10 years. We live together and have for about 5 years. When we met, I didn’t really drink. I still don’t drink that much, it’s just not really my thing. I saw him for the first time while out drinking, he does not drink much either and made that very clear, but would have one or two beers a night out, and drink more on special occasions like parties or New Year’s Eve. <br><br>He made it very clear that he doesn’t want to date someone who drinks a lot, which was totally fine with me because I didn’t really drink anyway. After dating for a year or two, he would ask me how much I had to drink on nights that we weren’t together, which I found odd but wasn’t a huge deal at the time. <br><br>When we first moved in together, I would have a glass of wine every night with dinner, not to get drunk, but for taste. I thought there was absolutely nothing wrong with this. One day, he came home early from work, and there was an empty bottle in the recycling bin, which he found, and was extremely angry about. He did not shout at me, but did say that it was a turn off and asked if I had been drinking at work, which I had not. I continued to have a glass of wine with dinner sometimes, but never had a whole bottle. <br><br>I saw a slight decline in our relationship, and I think this could have been part of the problem. We broke up for about 3 months a few years ago, and when we got back together, we had a conversation about alcohol, and I told him that I do still drink but not often. He was okay with it.<br><br>He still asks me about my drinking when we are apart, and I do not drink at work. I am starting to think that he sees me drinking in general as a turn off. I don’t know how to navigate this, I don’t know if he’s being ridiculous or not. I drink very little, but I do drink. Should I just completely stop drinking at all, or is that ridiculous?<br><br>EDIT: quick edit because some of you are stating that I am an alcoholic because there was an empty bottle in the recycling bin… just to say that it wasn’t a full bottle, and I had drunk it over the course of several nights. Completely normal to have a bottle of wine last 3-4 nights, in my opinion.<br><br>EDIT 2: I just want to clarify that I don’t drink every night, and never take days off work or anything like that for drinking. Please don’t assume I have a problem. I just drink sometimes, but less than most people I know, and do not believe that it is a problem.<br><br>EDIT 3: I think I may have accidentally worded things wrong in this post. I am not a recovering alcoholic, I am definitely drinking while with him, and I do not drink at work. <br><br>UPDATE: I think I may have accidentally worded things wrong in my first post. I am not a recovering alcoholic, I am definitely drinking while with him, and I do not drink at work. <br><br>Okay, so… after reading a lot of the comments, I walked into my kitchen and was super annoyed to see that he had poured the rest of my wine bottle (which was open but not empty) down the drain and put the bottle in the recycling bin. I am so pissed off now, I am a completely happy, non abusive drinker who doesn’t even drink that much and never had a problem. This was my first bottle of wine in almost a month. I don’t know what to do, I am super annoyed.