My sister in law (F36) is a gold-digger and I (m26) feel sorry for her fiancé (m31)

Heyo, I (26, M) am a potter and a part time nanny. Yes, you read that right, I’m a male nanny. I love my job and I’m good at it. I’ve been doing it since 2013 and that’s something that my family will never let me hear the end of.<br><br>My sister in law (36, F) is a completely different story. She’s married my brother (30, M) for 5 years now. She’s the typical housewife but instead of staying home and doing the laundry, cooking or cleaning, she prefers to hang around at coffee shops and shopping centers. My brother doesn’t seem to mind (or atleast he doesn’t want to see it). The two of them don’t share a pot of investement, they each have their own savings account. My brother invests his money and works hard. My sister in law spends it on becoming something she’s not (plastic surgery and fancy clothing). I don’t get it. My brother could fire her and hire a cleaning lady and a cooking lady for less than what she spends.<br><br>She looks down on everyone. I’m a nanny? Ew, how pathetic. But hey, free babysitting for them whenever they want it. My parents? They are old and dumb, they have no idea what’s going on in the world. My cousins? They’re too trad. One of them is a SAHM and the other is a stay at home dad. They’re weird. She only talks to people who have a higher status than her, like doctors and chefs. But god forbid they find out she’s a housewife.<br><br>Here’s where it gets bad. She’s having an affair with a man (31, M) she met at the gym. She’s been seeing him for almost a year now. He’s insanely attractive. All the women in our family are hung for him. She wants to marry him. She’s already divorced my brother and is making him pay her alimony. She has full custody of my brother’s kid because she’s a poor defenseless woman. My brother is in a lot of pain but he doesn’t want to drag the family name through the dirt. She’s already married her new lover and despite the fact that she cheated on my brother, she’s coming from a complete different political view. She used to say that women who cheat on their husband are pieces of shit but now she’s saying that men can’t be faithful.<br><br>So why do I feel bad for her husband now? Because even tho they were poor and had to work hard, they were happy. They were each others rocks. They had something beautiful. But then my sister in law came and stole that from him. Now his family looks down on him because he married a complete bitch. I just feel like everything was going well and now it’s not. I honeslty feel sorry for him.<br><br>Edit: Wow. Thank you guys for the gold and the awards. I wasn’t expecting this to blow up. And wow, thank you for the comments! I’ve gotta say that I agrees with most of you but since I’m just a nanny, you are much more experienced and educated than me. <br><br>One more thing; I’m the black sheep of my family. My parents and siblings are all doctors or are studying to become doctors. They think I’m a piece of shit and a waste of space. They don’t want anything to do with me. They pretty much disowned me and since I was a child, I didn’t have a childhood. I’ve been working since I was 13. I don’t make much but I make due with it. Atleast I get to do what I love doing. And hey, being a nanny has it’s perks. I get to spend my days with people who aren’t mean to me. I’ve learned a lot through my job and I’ve been though a lot. I’ve been working for the same family since 2013 and we’re like a family to each other. <br><br>A lot of you are asking why I would feel bad for my sister in law. I feel bad for her because she could’ve had it all. She’s from a good background. Her parents are very nice people and they love everyone. They’re the people everyone wants to marry into. And my brother is the same. He’s the friend everyone wishes they had. <br><br>And this is what upsets me so much. She’s had so many opportunities and she’s blown all of them. She could’ve been a doctor just like everyone else. She could’ve been a nurse, a teacher, a lawyer, a police officer; anything. She could’ve done anything she wanted and she could’ve been anything she wanted. And what did she do? She did nothing. And she’s living her life as if she’s some kind of victim. And you know what? I feel bad for her. But that doesn’t mean I’m gonna defend her. She’s a bitch. I’m just saying that I feel bad for her because I wish things could’ve been different. She could’ve been a better person and that would’ve made everyone happy. <br><br>And yes. I do think that some women are capable of loving men. I know that most of you don’t believe that but I’ve seen it. There are a lot of couples in my neighborhood who are each others rocks. They stand by each other. They love each other. And they don’t let go. <br><br>I’m not trying to change anyone’s political view. I believe that the way you think is your own choice and no one should be able to change that. And hey, if you feel that you can’t trust a certain gender, that’s your own right. I’m just saying that I believe that there are people out there who do really love each other.