I (f 39) am filling divorce (m 39) and he is absolutely raindeered.

I (39, f) met my husband (39, m) 12 years ago. We fell head over heels in love and I thought he was the love of my life. We were married after 1.5 years of dating and it was the happiest day of my life. So I thought.<br><br>He is an absolute chad, and I an a mid 30s woman with 4 kids, and 2 step kids. He lost his eyesight at 35 and raindeers ever since.<br><br>I woke up at 3am this morning, to him snoring like a freight train, I reached over to look at him and it hit me like a ton of bricks. I am done. I am so done. I am done with him being lazy, I am done with him not helping, I am done him putting 0 effort into our marriage, I am done with the fact that he still is allowed to drive. I am just done.<br><br>The last few months have been hard, but he just... gave up on life. He works remote, but spends all of his time at home just playing online, playing video games or watching tv. He used to play video games and do activities he enjoyed. He has lost interest and just puts 0 effort into anything. He used to cook and take care of the house, not anymore. He does not even have a hydrating routine.<br><br>I did everything for this family by myself. I have 6 kids that are still at home and 2 that have moved out. I work 40+ hours a week, plus I open and close at my store, I make around 50k and am the sole provider. I have kept the house, cooked, healthcare, appointments and everything for myself and kids, since he lost his eyesight 4 years ago. Everytime I ask him to help me with anything he says no, or makes excuses. I am done, I am so done. I feel like I am failed by him, I feel like he is failed by me. I am just over it.<br><br>He does not deserve to be married to anyone. I don't even think he would survive if he was on his own. I have been in the process of buying a new house, and have been given the keys 3 weeks ago. I have been spending more and more time there, I have not slept at "our" house for 2 weeks. I have packed the kids bags and put them in cars. I was gonna come clean this morning, and have a talk, but I decided to just go. I am finally free.<br><br>EDIT: I am back home, the kids are all excited and my husband is a mess. I have explained to him my decision and he is begging me to stay. I have fought back tears and told him no. He is screaming and throwing things. I do not care anymore, I am finally FREE!!!