AITA for telling my mom I don't care if she gets sent to a nursing home?

My mom ended up in the ER a few days ago and is now in rehab. She had a stroke (she's 81) and will require ongoing therapy and observation. I'm an only child and these last few days have been nothing but arguments with my wife and adult children. They all feel like I should quit my job and move in with my mom to take care of her. I'm 59 and working at a pretty high paying job in IT. I make good money and have for the last 15 years or so. I have six figures in savings as well as a very nice house. My family has never lacked for anything and my wife, son and daughter are all well taken care of. My children were never prevented from pursuing anything they wanted to do because of lack of money. I've spent 30+ years working my ass off to make sure my family has been well taken care of. My mom has been stubborn about having help at home. We've tried several different home health aide services. She will keep them for a few weeks then fire them and tell us to stop trying to take over her life.<br><br>My wife says I need to stop thinking about myself and my mom needs me now and I really have no choice. My children are on her side. I've told them all repeatedly that if they are so concerned about my mom, they can move in with her. I've also mentioned the possibility of her going into a nursing home. My wife went to stay with my mom for a few days to help with getting her stuff ready to bring to the rehab but my children told me yesterday that she went back to my mom's house and moved everything she needed into her room. My wife told me she's going to stay there as long as she needs to. She unpacked my suitcase, too. This is starting to get ridiculous. I told her that if I get called by the rehab and told my mom is being released, I will not be there to pick her up. I'll just call her taxi service. I did not tell my wife I planned on doing this but when I talked to my mom last night, she told me she was worried I would not take care of her and that I had told my wife I wouldn't pick her up when she's released. I asked her how she heard that. My wife is talking to her about our arguments. I told my mom I didn't say that but she went on to say that I needed to take care of her. I lost it and told her I didn't have to do anything and if she keeps pushing me to give up my life for her, I'll make arrangements for a nursing home. She cried and told me she can't rely on me. I don't even care at this point.