It is impossible for men and women to be friends.

I'm sure many of you will disagree but I'm sharing this on behalf of all men who have had one (or more) of those "friend" who on the back of your head, you always thought had the "hots" for you but has never had enough courage to express the same. I have always been a charming gentleman and have had my own fair share of flings and relationships in the past. The reason why I'm writing this is that I have been a victim of a woman who I had considered to be an absolute friend and somebody I was quite close to as well. This person was on my radar for a couple of years now and had visited me at my place several times but I don't remember ever having made a move on her and always treated her like a complete gentleman. She on the other hand, would wear rather provocative clothes and would never hesitate to change in front of me. I remember there was one instance where I was discussing with her about purchasing a t shirt from a new brand and before I could even finish the sentence, she had already removed her top and I was left standing there, speechless and staring at her rather voluptuous and full bosoms. I have to admit, I was rather quite taken aback- but I still have to give myself credit for not making any move- but I was strongly tempted. She would also discuss with me all her problems with her then BF- now her ex BF. I had to see her several times after that incident but I never gave her the satisfaction of finding out that she had "titillated" me. In fact, she visited me several times after that including accompanying me to a pub where she and her ex BF got into a rather serious fight. Then after that incident, we continued meeting several times right until the night, she came to my place at 1130PM when I was half asleep in my bed. I'm not going to go into the details of what happened but I would just state that she left my place after five in the morning that particular day and started a full blown relationship with me. I'm also not going to lie that I have never found her attractive- in fact, I have always found her to be extremely hot and beautiful and I do remember having a strong crush on her when I first got to know her 4 years ago. But I never pursued her because I knew from the very beginning that she was way out of my league. But I continued to be her friend for the sake of being her friend while inwardly, always wishing that she would just consider me once in that manner. It's only many months later that I realized that my inward wish had actually come true. In fact, the very same lady- who before used to change in front of me as if I was a lady- would now change in front of me, every single time and would deliberately drop her towel in front of me as well, several times a day- every time we met. Initially, she had never mentioned anything about us having a relationship in the future but it was only three or four months later that she started talking about us having a future together. In fact, even when she had continued seeing me for over 6 months- she never once mentioned anything about us having a relationship although she had broken up- not once but thrice with her then BF and had started living with him again. It was only when she realized that I was not going to be around- as I was planning to move out of the country that she started thinking about us as a couple. And I'm glad I was not there to make it easy for her by making any move. The bottom line is that if a woman finds a man attractive enough, it's just a question of time as to when they make a move. In fact, with the rise of feminism and equality- there has been a growing number of women who have started making moves on men as well. And don't be surprised if your GF or your wife was the one who actually started making the move and not you- this is a proven fact and the woman who had been my friend for all these years is probably the best example. In fact, the very same lady who had never ever expressed her intention of ever being committed to me for so many years, was now telling me- just a few months ago- that she had always wanted to be with me. This left me in a state of utter shock and I remember asking her why she had then never expressed her intentions of ever being committed to me. She on the other hand maintained that she had always wanted to be with me but had been too shy to express her feelings. So when I refused to move out of the country, she was the happiest person and was ecstatic like a child. I'm just going to end this here leaving you all to ponder on this very subject.