I posted this on r/relationships and 300 people are calling me a monster.

I am 22m and my gf 20f have been dating for almost a year now. She's 1-2 weeks away from giving birth to our son. I posted in r/relationships asking if it's ok to leave her after our kid is born because i don't wanna be a dad and it's a big mess. They are all telling me i'm a monster. I feel like i'm going crazy. Can someone tell me what's worse, being a deadbeat dad or an unhappy dad?<br><br>(I know i should've just used a condom. I make that mistake all the time because i hate wearing them. I was stupid and it was my choice, but i didn't think being a deadbeat dad would be considered worse than not wanting to be a dad at all, no matter the circumstances)