AITA for not wanting to go to dinner with my mom, after what she said?

A little back story, my parents are divorced. My dad lives very far away. He couldn't make it to my graduation, my mom said it was okay because she would still be there. I got my degree in my field(she didn't). I got a nice paying job at an excellent company, I was so excited to be able to start my life. <br><br>My mom and I have always had a very strained relationship. My dad and I were always close. We talk everyday, he loves me very much. My mom showed up to my graduation. It was a silent protest. I had to go up for my degree, and she made it known that she was there, she didn't clap, she didn't smile. She looked at me like "Let's get this over with." I was sad at first, but once I saw my friends happy parents and my other family members who showed up to support me, I felt better.<br><br>She took me out to dinner, she asked what I wanted(she knew full well what that was). I wanted to go to a upscale restaurant. She drove me and paid for my meal. A lot of the decor was paintings, there was a live band, the service was excellent. I ordered appetizers, mains, and dessert. I got wine as well. She complained about how expensive the food was, but still ordered a full meal for herself as well. The band played a special song for me and I got a gift to commemorate the event. I felt so happy I had such wonderful people in my life.<br><br>On the way home, my mom opened up to me. She said she was upset that I didn't go to the college she wanted me to go to. She was mad I didn't get the degree she had wanted me to get. She was mad at the life choices I had made. She said she felt I abandoned her. She said I didn't look happy, and that she felt I had made the wrong choice. I told her she had no right to dictate my life, and that I was happy with my choices. I told her that she had no right to do what she did at graduation. I told her I was happy that my dad and other people cared enough to show up. She told me I was an ungrateful little bitch, and that I should be more thankful I have a mom. She said she was doing all of this for my own good. I got so angry I got out of the car at a red light, and walked to a park. <br><br>She didn't even notice I was gone until she went home and I wasn't there. She called my dad yelling at him about how I disrespected her. He told her she ruined her relationship with me, and that she had no one to blame but herself. She called me later and asked if I wanted to go to dinner. I told her no, and that I didn't want to see her right now. She said I was being selfish and childish.<br><br>AITA?