My (34m) wife (34f) keeps tying my boots after I've told her to keep her hands off of them. I tried to teach her a lesson and really hurt her feelings.

Yes, you read that right. My wife thought it was funny or cute or something to keep tying my boots. I would get up in the morning, go to the kitchen, start making coffee, and my running boots would be tied. She'd done book after book tying my work boots. It was so weird. And she'd fill my water bottle every night. I'd wake up in the middle of the night and she'd have filled it again. I'd ask her why she keeps doing all this and she'd say she wants to put a smile on my face to start my day.<br><br>This went on for a couple of months. Finally, I lost it and decided to teach her a lesson. She had just gotten a new pair of running shoes and, the night before she was going to run, I went into her room, untied them, and then tied them together. Like, one shoe was on one side of her desk and the other was on the other, with the laces between them. The next morning she came fuming into the kitchen waving the shoes. I said, "Ha! Now you know how I feel!" And she just started crying. I was not expecting that.<br><br>Now it's a few days later and she won't talk to me. She says I have a mental disorder and need to see a therapist because I'm mean and spiteful. I don't think that's true. I like to have a little fun and don't want my belongings touched. Neither of us have ever mentioned wanting to end the marriage but we've been together for 20 years so sometimes I worry that she feels differently even if she doesn't say it. How can I make her feel better?<br><br>Edit: I get that the title seems like it doesn't make sense. There was no reason for me to be tying my boots at 2am, but I was. I work weird hours so it could be 2pm, 8pm, or 3am. I was tired one night and decided to get a head start on the next day.