Do I (38F) allow family that kicked me out at 18 back into my life, husband (38M) is starting to resent me over it

So I’m fairly certain that once I’m done typing this, I’ll have my answer. But I just really need some outside opinions before I do this. I’m just so conflicted, but I really don’t want to keep my husband and children suffering for this. I’ve only mentioned a little of this to my therapist, so I think it’s time I get some real feedback. I’ll try to keep this as short as possible.<br><br>I was raised in a very religious household. I had to be retain my virginity and purity up until I got married. My parents raised me very strictly. Any man I dated had to have permission from my father, and he would always choose whoever it was that was the most religious and closest to our faith. <br><br>When I was 17 I met someone who didn’t believe in the same religion as I did. My dad found out about it and was absolutely furious. We continued seeing each other until I turned 18. When my dad found out again, he absolutely blew up at me and accused me of being a whore, among other things. He told me that he couldn’t trust me anymore, and that if I decided to leave the faith, then I could also leave the house. I ended up leaving with nothing but my car, and a small bag of clothes. I never went back. My parents and siblings also refused to contact me anymore.<br><br>Fast forward a few more years, and I met my future husband. He proposed after 8 months of being together. We decided to get married in a secular courthouse wedding. There was no religious affiliation involved. We have two beautiful children together who are now 13 and 11. My husband has been absolutely wonderful and supportive. I told him everything about my past with my parents, and he was absolutely supportive. He said he could never imagine ever doing that to our kids, and hopes that they don’t hate us. I feel the same way. We’ve recently purchased our dream home, which is at the beach. It’s not where I grew up, which is part of why we moved here.<br><br>Ever since having kids, I’ve started frequenting Christian churches again. I realized that while my upbringing was crappy, I still do have faith. However, it isn’t the same as it was then. I absolutely respect our children’s decisions if they don’t want to attend church anymore. I refuse to force them into anything that they don’t want to do. I believe that this is what being a parent is. My husband supports this, but he is not religious. It’s a work in progress, and I just want my kids to have a normal childhood.<br><br>Things have been absolutely great. Until recently. When we moved here, it seemed that my mom started tracking me down. I’m not sure how she got my phone number, but she did, and called me out of the blue last month. I didn’t recognize the number, but when I answered and realized it was her, I hung up. She’s called me several times since, but always from a different number. I think she either has a burner phone or her new husband does. I’ve ignored the calls, but received some very "Christian like" text messages from her. She told me that she can’t wait "to see me again", that "the lord would forgive me for my sins", and that "she couldn’t wait to finally meet her grandkids". I did not respond, and instead told my husband about it. He thinks that I should just ignore it and it will go away. He also said that if she ever showed up at our doorstep that he would call the police and have her removed and to not worry about it.<br><br>Then yesterday, I got a knock on the door while my husband and kids were out. When I looked through the window, it was my parents. My dad looked old and frail, but my mom looked almost the same as she did 20 years ago. |Subtle Botox maybe. My heart racing, I didn’t open the door. I called my husband and told him that they were at our house. He quickly left work and told me to wait in the bedroom and that he would take care of it. When he got there, my parents were still standing outside the door. My husband told them that they needed to leave and not come back, or he would have them removed by the police. My mom began crying and saying that she wanted to see her grandkids, and that the lord would always forgive me for my transgressions. My dad just stood there with absolutely no expression. My husband told her that the lord may forgive me, but he couldn’t forgive her and my father for kicking me out when I was 18, and that I didn’t want them in our lives. They didn’t leave until my husband called the police. They asked to speak to me before leaving, and my husband told them no and continued with the call. They left not long after that.<br><br>My husband told me what happened, and I’m just devastated. I don’t want my family to be a nuisance anymore. My husband has been absolutely supportive and understanding of this. My kids know a little bit about it, but not much. I wouldn’t mind having a small *civil* reunion between my parents and siblings and I, but I absolutely do not want them around my kids at all. My husband isn’t so keen on the idea. He just wants them to absolutely be gone. And I absolutely understand this. I want my parents gone too, but a part of me feels bad.<br><br>So I guess my question is, do I allow them back into my life?<br><br>tl;dr: My parents kicked me out when I turned 18 because I was seeing someone who didn’t have the same faith as I did. They told me to leave. I did. Now they want me back, and I absolutely do not want them around me or my kids.