My husband is mad at me because I refused to give birth to his son.
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I'm kind of bored and I want to share my story. I (30 F) have 3 children, 3 daughters, all of them are healthy and strong. Today I was talking to my husband (39 M), when he said, out of nowhere: "You failed to give me the son that I wanted".<br><br>I'm shocked for a while, thought that it was a joke, but he then continued: "We could have divorced and you could have found another man to give you the boy that you wanted, but you decided to stay with me and give me those 3 useless daughters".<br><br>He's a very traditional man and I knew that since the beginning. I thought that it could be something cultural, but his hatred for women is disgusting. He said that women are weak and that they are just a baby machine.<br><br>When I was a teenager, I wanted to be a feminist, I wanted to fight for the rights of women, but my parents told me that I was too young for that and that I should focus on my studies first. But my husband's words stuck with me all these years.<br><br>I want to have a better relationship with my daughters, look at them as whole human beings, not as objects or baby machines.<br><br>EDIT: Holy crap! I thought this would be a post just for fun, but you guys are insane... I don't even know where to start. Thank you for the support, it's crazy... I really didn't think that this would be the reaction for this... Maybe I wrote it wrongly, but my husband's words of hate towards women made me rethink my whole life. Thank you for the comments about raising my daughters in a better way and stuff, but I don't want to be a feminist, I don't want to fight for any of that, I don't want to change the world.<br><br>I just wanted to share and thank you for the comments. It's much more than I expected.<br><br>EDIT 2: I'm not comfortable with discord... Thank you for inviting though.<br><br>EDIT 3: I'm not mad with him. It's not like he said it to be mean or hurtful. He's just kind of... weird. That's all.<br><br>EDIT 4: There was this guy that was talking to me in the comments. You were right, I reread my post and I was mad, I just didn't realize it. I'm sorry if I messed around your time.<br><br>EDIT 5: I'm not sure if I should or if I'm allowed to talk about this, but I want to clear some things up: It's not that he wants a boy, it's that he wants a "son". I say this because, for him, the perfect son is a boy that plays with cars, knows how to play soccer, ride a bike, have a beard, be aggressive towards other men... You guys get it. My daughters are not like that. They are not manly. I don't want to give you too much details about them, but they are all feminine in their way. They like dolls, but they also like to play soccer. They like to play with cars, but they also like to wear dresses. They are not what my husband wants. It's not that he wants a son because of gender, it's that he wants a son because of manliness, because of the stereotypes. That's what was his point when he said "3 useless daughters".<br><br>EDIT 6: I'm sorry if I hurt any of you, I didn't want to give you a false expectation. I know that my posts were kind of... weird. I didn't mean anything, I swear.
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