Boy said I was "too pretty for feminism" and now hes telling me I'm "too agreeable" to be a feminist

Fiancé (M24) and I (F20) have been together for 3 years and engaged for a year. We have been together happily for the most part without many fights. My feelings about women's rights have become more passionate over time during the course of our relationship and he knows that quite well. I am active on tiktok and Instagram and regularly post stuff about feminism on my stories and on the walls quite openly.<br><br>Boy and I had an argument a few days back and quite frankly, I am at a loss about how to handle it, so I am reaching out to all of you for your opinions and advice.<br><br>The other day, my BIL (brother-in-law aka my fiancé's brother) came over to our place and we were all chatting. During this argument, I expressed my opinion on the recent changes in abortion laws in India, saying that they are really wrong and we should do something, including active protests. My BIL and his wife (my SIL) are all for the changes and in their opinion, women should be quite and not express their opinions openly.<br><br>My BIL said that "real women don't express their opinions openly" and my SIL said that "feminists shouldn't be so loud". My fiancé said that "I'm not a feminist and I'm not a tomboy and I'm allowed to express my views as long as I'm not too loud or too aggressive". My BIL and SIL both agreed.<br><br>I tried to keep calm, but I couldn't help but feel angry and hurt. My fiancé said that "I shouldn't be like that" and "I shouldn't be a feminist because I'm not a tomboy or a lesbian" and "I should be more quiet and not express my opinions openly". I tried to explain that feminism is not just about gender or sexual orientation, but about equality and human rights. My SIL interrupted me and said that "I shouldn't be like that" and "I should be more quiet and not express my opinions openly".<br><br>My BIL and SIL left and my fiancé and I got into a full-blown argument. He said that "he doesn't like it when I express my views openly" and "I shouldn't be so loud and aggressive". I tried to explain that feminism is not just about gender or sexual orientation, but about equality and human rights. My fiancé said that "I don't like it when you think you're better than us" and "you shouldn't be so loud and aggressive". He said that I shouldn't be allowed to express my views openly and that I should be more quiet and not express my opinions openly.<br><br>I am really upset and hurt by my fiancé's words. I feel like he is trying to control me and silence me. I don't know what to do now. I want to show him and prove him wrong and figure out how I can show him and others like him how important feminism is and what it's really about. I want to show him that feminism is not just about gender or sexual orientation, but about equality and human rights.<br><br>I am really upset and hurt by my fiancé's words. I feel like he is trying to control me and silence me. I am really indecisive about what to do now. My gut is telling me I should break up with him, but I have already invested so much of time and energy in this relationship.<br><br>I need your advice on what to do. How do I handle this situation? I am really upset and hurt by my fiancé's words. I feel like he is trying to control me and silence me. I don't know what to do now.<br><br>Tldr: Boy said I was "too pretty for feminism" and now hes telling me I'm "too agreeable" to be a feminist