I (28F) told my dad (50sM) I hate him and he responded with 'this's the happiest day of my life' ?
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I'm going to condense this story as much as possible, and I apologize in advance for any mistakes in formatting. <br>My dad and I have always been close. He's always helped me with things, encouraged me in life, etc. There was just one major drawback: my dad is extremely critical. I don't know what other word to use: he's always pointed out things he thinks are wrong. When I went to school, he'd tell me I looked terrible or my clothes were tacky. When I got a job, he'd criticize my work ethic, my hygiene, my voice, etc. I used to confide in him, but he'd point out flaws in my thinking or my voice or my hair or even my breathing. I would also have panic attacks sometimes, and he'd always tell me he wasn't responsible for my issues. I don't think this is the same as 'tough love' or 'critical thinking'. <br> Because of this, I hate my dad. I try not to, because I feel this would make me an awful daughter, and he's always been kind in other ways. He's been there for me, and helped me in the ways I mentioned, but because of the constant insults, I could never shake the feeling that real deep down, he resented me. <br><br>Recently, I've been having a lot of issues with money. I'm not sure if it's because of the virus or what, but I've been running out of food and running out of money. I decided to ask my dad for help, and again, he gave me money. He also told me I'm irresponsible, and added that he hopes my suffering will teach me a lesson. <br>I broke down. I told him that this's the last straw, I'm done. I told him I'm not calling him anymore. I told him I hate him, and he said "this's the happiest day of my life." <br>I'm confused, hurt, and worried. Tell me, Reddit. <br>Is this's the end of our relationship? <br>How do I tell my mother about this? <br>How do I respond to my dad?
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