Dad (58) married (36 F) his employee and it destroyed our family.

Dad married a woman who was working for him at a restaurant he manages. Shes from a South American country (not sure which one).<br><br>They had a small wedding in January with very little notice given. It was a surprise to everyone, my brother and i werent even told until after the wedding was already settled. We werent too surprised about it, since dad was seeing someone for a few years who was also much younger, but they broke up a year or so ago.<br><br>Since my dad married her, my brother and i (the kids, 24 m and 26 m) dont really see him any more. The marriage happened right before lockdown, so COVID was a good excuse to not see us. Before this though, we werent invited to any family stuff at the new house. My dad had said that he'd rather his new wife have her family over instead of us because she's homesick.<br><br>My dads new wifes family has been using our house to stay in the US for the past year. When we werent allowed to see my dad because of lockdown, her family were allowed to be there without any problem. They never wore masks when they were at our house either.<br><br>My brother and i never met my dads new wife in person until June when my grandma died. My grandpa was stuck in another country (with her family funnily enough) and couldn't get in the US because of COVID. My brother and i had to pick him up at the airport and take care of a lot of stuff that my dad didnt help with.<br><br>My dad has been emotionally dead for the past few months. He has not cried when my grandma died and barely spoke to anyone at her funeral. It felt like he didnt know what to say so he just avoided everyone. His new wife was very clingy with him and didnt let him talk to us much. Shes the type of person that will interrupt a conversation youre having and start speaking in their native language.<br><br>Now that lockdown is over and my grandpa is back in the country, my dad has completely abandoned us. We havent seen him without his new wife for probably over a year at this point. Our family used to be very close together but now were cut off from him. We werent even allowed inside his new house until June and thats only because we brought my grandpa over to see it.<br><br>My grandpas house is empty and my dad wont touch anything. When my grandma died she left a bunch of money and property abroad to my dad. Instead of using that money to help my grandpa rebuild his life after losing my grandma, my dad used it to pay for his new wife and her family to stay in the US. My dad had helped to build my grandpas house himself, but it was destroyed in 2010.<br><br>My dads new wife and her family have no shame in taking whatever they want. They will eat all the food from my dads fridge without asking and leave the dirty dishes there. When they first stayed over, my dad told us that they had no idea how to use a washing machine, shower, or toilet. My dad pays for her family to stay in the US and they pay for food and other expenses.<br><br>My dad hasnt communicated with my grandpa about anything. We werent allowed to see my dads house for over a year and still havent seen his new wifes family besides at the airport when we first picked them up. My dad also didnt tell my grandpa that he had bought a new house. He also didnt tell him that he is married which was the reason he stayed at a hotel when he came to the US. My brother and i had to explain all of this to him and it was not a good experience.<br><br>My brother and i still live with my dad. Hes been absent from our lives so much that we dont even know when hes at home anymore. We havent had a meal with him in months. The only time we spoke to him about the marriage was when i told him i was upset and that he'd hurt my feelings by excluding me. He didnt seem to care and had nothing to say. My brother and i have tried to reach out to him but hes too distracted by his new wife and her family to care about us.<br><br>We still pay rent for our house because its in my dads name. My dad has never talked to us about whether we should move or not. My brother and i were talking about this last night and we decided that we have to move out. We feel like my dad will kick us out without notice anyway and we wouldnt want to live in the same house as him and his new wife. I think my brother is going to stay with his long-distance girlfriend and i will probably stay with my boyfriend (who my dad also didnt tell about the marriage)<br><br>I'm really upset that my dad would be so careless and not respect his own family. This is a really bad situation and we all feel betrayed and hurt. I dont know how i can salvage my relationship with my dad at this point and make it better.<br><br>What should my brother and i do about this situation?