My husband’s ex wife...

My husband and I have been together for 4 years , married for 2 years. We are ridiculously happy. He has a kid from a past relationship. <br><br>His kid’s mother is an ex wife. <br><br>She’s very thin. Toned. She sticks to her keto diet and is very strict about what she eats and how much she works out. She’s a skinny girl. <br><br>She’s always been polite and respectful towards me. She’s never said or done anything to offend me. We are cordial. <br><br>But I feel like she’s saying stuff to my husband that is making him worry about my weight. <br><br>He’s never said anything to me about my weight. He’s never mentioned it. <br><br>But now. He keeps buying me healthy food. Healthy snacks. Fruit. Granola bars. He’s encouraged me to join a gym. He bought me yoga pants to go for runs with him. <br><br>I am a chubby girl. I like being chubby. I don’t want to lose weight. I don’t want to go to the gym. I like sitting home and watching Netflix. I like watching ballet videos. I love to dance but I get random attacks of anxiety. I do not like working out. I do not like going for runs. I do not want to eat fruit. <br><br>But when I said this to my husband. He was shocked. He said he thought I wanted to lose weight. He said he thought I wanted to be healthy. <br><br>I’m so confused. I don’t understand what’s going on. <br><br>He said maybe we should do P90X together. He said maybe we should join a gym together. <br><br>I don’t want to do that. I don’t want to go to the gym and get judged. I know I’m chubby and I accept it and I’m happy. But I don’t want to be judged by other people in a gym. I don’t want to be looked at or whispered about. I don’t want to go for runs. I don’t want to do P90X or any of the things he wants to do. <br><br>I tried explaining that all I want to do is eat chips and dip and watch Netflix and cuddle and have sex and maybe go swimming or something like that. <br><br>He just smiled and nodded. He said he understands and said we’ll do it together. <br><br>But. I don’t want to do it together. I don’t want to be healthy. I don’t want to do P90X. I don’t want to join a gym. I don’t want to go for runs. I don’t want to do anything like that. I want to be chubby. I want to eat junk food. I want to be lazy. <br><br>I don’t get why he’s pushing this. I feel like his ex wife is saying stuff about me. I feel like she is calling me fat. <br><br>My husband is not saying anything like that. He’s not calling me fat. But he’s pushing me to lose weight. He’s telling me to join a gym. He’s saying he wants to do P90X with me. <br><br>I want to tell him no. But I don’t want to sound lazy. <br><br>I want to eat chips and dip and watch Netflix all day every day. But I don’t want him to think I’m lazy. I don’t want him to think I’m fat. <br><br>I just don’t understand what’s going on. I don’t get why he’s pushing this when I’ve explained how I feel. <br><br>I just want to be myself. I just want to be chubby and happy and lazy and gluttonous and eat all the chips and dip I want. <br><br>Why can’t that happen?