My wife “baby-trapped” me

So, I’m 28 and my wife is 27. We have a 3 year old kid. He’s my everything but I wasn’t ready for him yet. <br><br>Before we were married we were on the same page that we didn’t want kids until 30. We even talked about not having any kids at all but she always told me that she wanted at least one. I grew up in a big family and it was chaotic. My childhood wasn’t all happy and that’s why I never wanted to have kids. I even thought about not getting married, because in my culture it’s weird to be married and not have kids. But I loved my wife so much and still do. <br><br>When we talked about kids she always told me that she didn’t want her family to bully her into having kids. But after we got married all of a sudden she was ready. I wasn’t but she convinced me. And now I’m a dad to a 3 year old. All thanks to her persuasion and “no I don’t want to have sex unless…” <br><br>I recently found out that she was already pregnant when I agreed. I’m not sure for how long though. <br><br>Now, I don’t hate my kid or anything. Far from that! I love him. But, I feel like my parents didn’t put enough stock into my feelings and now it’s being repeated. I feel like I was never asked about anything. <br><br>Should I confront her about this? She will probably cry about how I don’t love our kid and I don’t want to make her feel like that. But I also don’t want to bottle this inside of me. I’m very much against lying and I feel like she lied to me.<br><br>What would be the best way to handle this situation? I don’t want to be mean towards her, even though she hurt me and betrayed me.