My [28F] husband [28M] is obsessed with cheating on me. How do I make him stop?

At least once a day, my husband brings up how he is thinking about cheating on me. <br><br>He will say this while I am doing nothing wrong, like washing dishes or preparing a meal or getting ready for work. Sometimes he even is physically with another woman (me).<br><br>Before anyone says "why are you married to him?" It started after we got back from our wedding and he said "I could never cheat on you. I'm so glad I married you because I'm not worried about cheating." <br><br>At the time I didn't know what he meant. He'd also talked about his fear of cheating because his mom cheated on his dad. <br><br>But then he started to say things like "I wonder what it would be like to cheat on you. I'm so glad I married you because I don't have to worry about it."<br><br>Then "I wonder what it would be like if I were single. I'd be cheating on you. I'm so glad I married you because I don't have to worry about it. I don't have to want to cheat on you."<br><br>Then "I wonder if I'm a cheater at heart. I'm glad I married you because I don't have to worry about cheating."<br><br>Then one day he said "I wonder if I'm a cheater at heart. I'm glad I married you because I get the desire to cheat out of my system by thinking about it, but I don't have to act on it." (This last one made me so mad I didn't talk to him for a month. It's been a few months since he said this specific one.)<br><br>He knows it bothers me but he thinks it's harmless. I think he's fixated because otherwise why would he bring it up so often? I even joked that he's so fixated on it, he might as well just cheat and then he said "I won't cheat on you because I love you too much." I said "Well then stop obsessing over it" because I don't want to hear it. And he said "if I don't obsess over it, then I might actually cheat on you and I don't want to do that." (Again, I'm so mad at him for this response!)<br><br>He grew up in a strict Christian household. I did too, but not as strict as his. He was 28 when we got married and is still a virgin. <br><br>I'm at a loss for what to do. I don't even want to be intimate with him anymore because I feel so disgusted by him. I truly think he has some serious mental issues that need to be addressed but he refuses to seek any counseling.<br><br>I've suggested couples counseling, individual counseling for him, therapy, etc. Nothing makes him want to seek help. I asked him to watch a video about this issue and he refused because he said "I don't have mental health issues. It's not my fault I'm wired this way."<br><br>He says he's not trying to upset me and I'd be better off if I just listened to him and then dropped the conversation. I'm sick of hearing it though. I don't want to hear it but he won't let me drop it. He has to have the last word on the subject and he always ends with "I'm not going to cheat on you because I love you too much."<br><br>How do I get him to stop? How do I get him to understand my perspective?<br><br>I just want to have a healthy marriage with someone I trust. And I want to stop feeling repulsed by him.<br><br>&#x200B;