CMV: You Should Never Be A Nice Guy

Everyone has been a nice guy at least once in their lifetime. Whether it’s telling other people you like them when you don’t really like them, or trying to go out of your way to help people that don’t ask for your help, people all have been nice guys at least once in their life. Being a nice guy is unhealthy and you should never be a nice guy. <br><br>The first reason you shouldn’t be a nice guy is that you'll grow a poor habit in your life. When you regularly do something nice for people, you're going to acquire a habit of doing favors for other people anytime you’re asked. You might be thinking, what’s wrong with having a habit of doing favors for people? That’s not wrong at all. What’s wrong with this habit is that you regularly are doing favors for people without expecting anything in return and without asking if they would be willing to do a favor in exchange. While it’s good that you are doing favors for people, you start to run into issues when you start to abuse that privilege by doing things you don’t have to do and then complaining about the fact that you did it when you didn’t have to do it in the first place. This habit is not only bad for you because you might regret doing something when you don’t have to, but it also adds something to your list of things you have to do as well as your emotional/mental load. So the next time you do something nice for somebody as a nice guy, you should stop doing it. <br><br>Another reason is that you will be seen as a "Yes Man" and not your own person. As a nice guy, you will be seen as a yes man because you will have a history of saying yes and not want to stop doing it. People will start to call you a yes man because they know that no matter what they ask, you’ll never say no. This problem becomes worse because you end up ruining your relationships with people because they start to see you as a yes man. They no longer will see you as a person, but more as a robot they can program to do anything they ask you to. This is bad because when you first met this person, you likely had a good personality and they liked you because of that. When you become a yes man, you will stop making your own decisions and become more of a robot.<br><br>And finally, you only get good karma and nothing in return. This reason might be the worst reason out of all of them. If you do something nice for someone, you will get good karma. Now, you might be thinking, "Wait, isn't good karma good?" While having good karma is a good thing, having good karma is useless if you don’t get anything in return. Sure, people love that you are doing good things for them, but how does it benefit you? Well, in this case, you’re not getting anything in return. What’s even worse is that you might expect to get something in return when you do something nice for someone, but then not get anything in return. This is a big problem. When you do a favor for someone and don’t get anything in return, but you even expect to get something in return, you will start to regret your decision and start to not like the person for not doing the favor in exchange. <br><br>So the next time you think you’re going to be a nice guy, don’t do it. Sure, you might be a good person, but you will end up growing a bad habit, people in your life will start to see you as their personal robot, and you will get nothing in return for what you’re doing. Don’t be a nice guy.<br><br>**Editing Update:** I didn’t expect this to go viral and apologize if my grammar was off. I don’t know how to edit my posts, so my apologies.<br><br>**Update 2:** As some of you pointed out, I think it would be better other people get to put their opinion here instead of just me on this issue. If you want to use my post to change your view, feel free to do so. I am looking forward to hearing other people’s opinions and if I can change my view. <br><br>**Update 3:** I never thought this post would go this far. I am just a Junior in High School who has been doing this for the past few weeks. I appreciate everyone who participated in this post and I appreciate it if you followed me. I will post more topics in the future.