My (M29) wife (F26) wants baby now, I want a dog first.

My wife and I have been together for 8 years, married for 2 of those, and have talked about wanting a baby ever since the beginning. When we were younger, I always joked that I wanted a dog before a baby to test ourselves. She had always said that dogs are different than babies, which I agree with. As we got older, our Anniversary weekend turned into a babymoon, but then with the stress of no pregnancy after a year, we got a dog a few months after our anniversary. But we still continued to try for a baby. After 14 months of trying my wife got pregnant, but unfortunately it was a miscarriage. We were both devastated, and then 3 months later she was pregnant again. And 10 weeks later… Another miscarriage. Truly heart breaking. Which brings us to today. My wife wants a baby now, I want a dog first. Just kidding, sort of. But I don’t want a baby anytime soon. And that’s causing problems in our marriage. <br><br>My wife is adamant we try again. She’s convinced it was bad luck the last two times and thinks she will get pregnant again right away. I am not so optimistic. I want to wait until we find out the cause of the miscarriages. I have not had a sperm analysis, she has not had any testing either. The doctor seemed to think it was just “bad luck” but we need to truly understand what is going on for me to feel comfortable to continue trying. She will not try again until I am ready. And this is causing a massive rift in our marriage. <br><br>She says I don’t take her feelings into account. I do. Which is why I don’t want to continue trying until we know what is going on. She wants to push forward with a positive attitude, I want to truly know and plan for the “what ifs”. How do we come to a compromise when we are so far off? Please help.<br><br>TLDR: My wife and I both want a baby. She wants to try again after two miscarriages. I want to wait for answers on why it keeps happening. She thinks I’m insensitive to her feelings. How do I get her to compromise with me?