AITA for not including my trans friend in my bridal party after my fiancé had a meltdown?

I (26F) am getting married to my fiancé (28M) in two months. I have a friend "Jess" (281F) who is trans and has been my best friend for most of my life. When I had graduated college and started working, I was a little too young to know who I was and I ended up exploring other friendships that led me to meet my fiancé. I did tell Jess when she came out as trans, and she was supportive of my relationship with my fiancé and even came to our engagement party last year when we asked everyone to keep it private. I never really felt uncomfortable telling her I was engaged because I felt like she would be supportive, and I’ve always valued her opinion. I know some of my other friends might think I’m a jerk for not telling her sooner, but I didn’t think it was a big deal to share when I bought my wedding dress last month. I messaged her on Facebook and told her the news, and she was really excited for me and even asked about the wedding date. She then asked if she could come and I said she was welcome to, but I said I wasn’t including her in the wedding party. I could see the disappointment in her message, but she wished me well and said “Of course, congratulations!” <br><br>I did tell my fiancé the truth that I already told Jess when I told her, and he started having a meltdown about it. He said he couldn’t believe I told someone who is not biological female about the wedding before my own best friend. He said it was rude, and I could have at least waited until after a month since the engagement to tell her. I told him she is just happy for me and would have been happy either way, but he said I’m a hypocrite for being mad at him for not being involved with trans people when I have trans friends. I don’t think that’s true because I never went to Pride events or donated to trans rights orgs without talking to him first, but he got really mad and said I’m just as bad. I feel like I did the right thing by not including Jess in my bridal party since I didn’t really grow up with her, and I was engaged before I even met him. I also feel bad for not telling her sooner, but I feel like I didn’t do anything wrong. My fiancé is mad at me and Jess is mad at me and I don’t know what to do. AITA?