My (28F) husband (29M) is angry that I bought my own car without letting him know.

I am going to start by saying that we live in a country in South East Asia. It is a Third World country and I am not supposed to mention the name of the country so you can just call it country B. My husband and I are from country B but we are currently living in country C because we both work here. We were married two years ago in a traditional ceremony in country B (the one my husband wanted) and civil wedding in country C (my choice). We filed a report in city D and that's where we've decided to live in. My husband wanted to live in city E for some reason, but I didn't want to. I insisted that we live in city D because it is more expensive to live there compared to city E. My husband and his family have a strong culture, tradition, and beliefs that I'm not used to. I grew up in a big city in country B although it's not the biggest or the capital city of country B.<br><br>As much as possible, I don't want people especially my husband's family to know any problems that we're having in our marriage. I'm not the type who likes to air dirty laundry in public. I've been brought up to be discreet and polite at all times. My husband and I have been having problems lately. I've talked to my older brothers and my best friend but they all have so many questions. I can't ask for advice from my parents because my mother is a traditionalist as well. She would probably side with my husband. I don't know if my father will side with me since he's very conservative and traditional as well.<br><br>What I know about my husband and his family are as follows:<br><br>* Women have no right to complain.<br>* Women are not allowed to make decisions for themselves and their families.<br>* Women have to obey men at all times.<br>* Women have a lower status compared to men.<br>* Women are not as good as men.<br>* Women have no right to ask for money from their husbands.<br>* Women have to obey their husbands at all times.<br>* If a woman earns more than her husband then she's being disloyal and disrespectful to her husband.<br>* Women don't deserve to be treated well. They can't be spoiled.<br>* Women have to obey other people and they can't say no.<br><br>I grew up in a big city so it's not like this at all. I grew up in a family of strong women. My grandparents were both very strict and firm. They were very protective of us. My father is the second to the youngest in his family (he has five siblings) and my mother is the eldest (she has two siblings). I have three siblings and I am the third. My older brothers are the ones who take care of me when my parents are away. My younger brother is six years younger than me and he's still studying although he's working part-time.<br><br>My husband was born and raised in the province (or in the countryside) in a small town. He's the second to the oldest in his family (he has four siblings) and he has two older sisters. His family doesn't allow women to go to school because they are not capable of studying. His mother didn't finish high school. She was forced to marry his father because she was pregnant with their eldest child. They have four daughters and one son. Only two of his sisters finished high school but they stopped studying because they were told to find a husband by the age of 18. His eldest sister didn't finish high school because she was forced to marry a man who is much older than her. My husband and his younger sister were the only ones who finished college. My husband is an engineer and his younger sister is a teacher.<br><br>I worked as an auditor for two years before I met my husband. I had to resign from my job so I could work with my husband in his business. I don't earn any salary but I work as an accountant and auditor for his business. I also do HR work and recruitment and training for all employees. I work from 6 am to 5 pm daily, sometimes I have to work on the weekends if there are no employees available. I've been working for his business for over a year without earning any salary. I have to ask for money from my husband because I don't have any source of income.<br><br>I'm not asking for more money than what I need. I only ask for money for my needs. My husband and his family refuse to spoil me and they don't want to buy me expensive things. It's just normal for me to have a car because I work in a big city (city D) and we live in a very big house that needs to be maintained. I am expected to cook, clean, and do chores for the whole house. I have to walk to the market daily because I don't have a car. I can't hire anyone to clean our house because my husband and his family refuse to allow it. I don't have any maid or any help like that. I have to maintain the house on my own because we have too many rooms and there are no employees available in city D.<br><br>We have five cars and three motorcycles. I don't have a car but I have a motorcycle. I asked my husband if we could sell one of our cars to help his business and if we could buy a house in city D instead of renting a house because the house that we're renting was inherited by his cousin. He refused because he doesn't want to sell the car. I bought a new car last week. I didn't tell him about it because I didn't want him to know. I bought it with my own money from my own bank account. It was a surprise and he was very angry when he saw me driving a new car.<br><br>He said that I could have bought a second-hand car that is cheap instead of a new one. He said that the car that I bought was not my choice and that it was his choice. He said that he is not happy that I bought the car that he wanted. He said that he wanted to buy it for himself but I beat him to it. He said that I had no right to buy a car without telling him first. He said that I had no right to use his money to buy a car. He said that I had no right to make decisions for myself without consulting him. He said that I had no right to buy something expensive for myself.<br><br>I told him that I used my own money and not his money. He got angrier and he said that I had no right to make money without asking for his permission. He said that I had no right to ask for something that I want. I told him that I can buy whatever I want because I earn my own money. He said that my money is his money. He said that since we're married, everything that I own belongs to him. He said that I have no right to buy a car if he doesn't allow me to. I argued with him but he refused to listen to me. He said that I had no right to ask him to sell his car because it was his choice as a man.<br><br>I don't know what to do. My husband is very stubborn and he doesn't want to listen to me. My husband is very traditional and conservative.