1.5 years ago I asked a now deleted question. Now I finally have the answer!

I'm infertile so I've explored many different family structures, including single parenthood and now finally, my husband and I have our long awaited and beloved baby. He's biracial (Black/White) and was adopted through foster care at the age of 2.5, and is now 4.<br><br>So my question was, and I've had the privilege of asking it with little to no judgment, "But what about when he gets older and he wants to date and have romantic partners? What if they get pregnant? Like, how does that work? How do you navigate the whole genealogy thing?"<br><br>And now, at 4, we're getting to the start of figuring that out. Last night he asked us very sweetly, "Why can't you have babies?"<br><br>Me, "Well, some people can't have babies. Sometimes it can be because of the man, sometimes it can be because of the woman."<br><br>Him, "Is it because you're so old?"<br><br>Me, "Yeah, we're getting older. That's part of it."<br><br>Him, "Does that mean you can't have babies?"<br><br>Me, "Right, yes. So this is the baby we got."<br><br>Him, "Why did you get me?"<br><br>Me, "We got you because we wanted a whole family. So we could have a husband, a wife, and a baby."<br><br>Him, "And you wanted a big baby because I was 2.5 when you had me."<br><br>Me, "Right. We wanted a big baby. Some people want babies at 0, some people want them at 2.5. We wanted one at 2.5. And we wanted a baby that was whole and healthy and strong, and we wanted one that we could raise, because we love raising you."<br><br>Him, "So you don't need any more babies."<br><br>Me, "I think we're done."<br><br>Him, "Good."<br><br>Me, "Because we love you and we're happy with our family."<br><br>Him, "Yeah."<br><br>So that's it, that's the answer to the question, "But what about when he wants to date and have romantic partners?" He and his wife, if he marries one, will have to figure it out for themselves. They will have to navigate that whole genealogy thing on their own, as adults, and that is okay. We love him and we're happy with our family.<br><br>Edit: Wow. I had no idea this post would make it to r/all. First of all, if you read this far, thank you. Second, happy 2021. Welcome to the world, baby! Third, to all the folks who bravely shared their stories of infertility, loss, and adoption, thank you. We could never pay back the depth of love, support, and generosity you've given us. Fourth, to all the people who have reached out to share their positive experiences with adoption, especially the adoptees, thank you for your stories, your kindness, and your generosity. We love you all very much. Fifth, to all the haters and trolls, thank you for hating. You've given us a lot to think about. Sixth, to the people who have come up to us in real life and asked if we're the people who posted this, thank you for being brave and saying something. We're glad we're not alone. Seventh, thank you to the mods here, for giving us a safe space to post and interact. We appreciate that. Lastly, if you're here and you're pregnant, congratulations. Welcome to motherhood. We're honored to be on this journey together. We love you.