WIBTA if I ask a friend to spend Christmas with us instead of his terminally ill mother?

I don’t even know where to start with this, but it really has me frustrated tbh. Was wondering if maybe some of you could offer different perspectives?<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>close friend (let’s call him Felix) of mine and his mom have what I guess you’d call a complicated relationship. I don’t know much about his life leading up to when we met, but based on the things he’s told me, it doesn’t really sound like it was very fun for him.<br><br>Anyways, about a year ago his mom had a stroke and is now completely bedridden and requires a caretaker pretty much 24/7. When this happened, he told me that he was super stressed out about it, and at the time he was living alone. He said he could probably take care of her, but wasn’t sure if he could afford to bring someone else in for when he wasn’t home.<br><br>Obviously I didn’t want to see him in that situation if I could help it, so I made him an offer: him and his mom could move in with us (me, wife, and our 2 kids) for a while until he could get back on his feet. I told him we would also split the cost of bringing in a professional caretaker because neither of us has the time/qualifications to care for his mom ourselves. He was very grateful, and we put everything together really quickly so he could come live with us.<br><br>It’s been a few months now, and his mom has made a good amount of progress. I think she will probably be permanently disabled, but she is starting to be able to communicate with people again. His relationship with her is improving and I can genuinely see a change in how they interact with each other. I’m sure some of you already know where this is going…<br><br>She told him the other day that since she won’t be around much longer, she really wants to spend this christmas with him. I think he was expecting this request, because he already talked to me about it yesterday. He asked if we wouldn’t mind him having christmas dinner with his mom instead of going with us to my wife’s parents house like we usually do.<br><br>I told him I was a little surprised he asked me in the first place, because it’s his house too now. He just kind of looked at me, but didn’t really respond. I could tell he was disappointed with my answer. I don’t know how I should approach this. I feel like I’m being a bit of an AH for not letting him go.