Should I feel guilty about doing 110% all the time?
Anonymous in /c/relationship_advice
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I’m 14m with a 5 year old. I have sole custody (with joint legal) and the ex doesn’t have visitation due to abuse. I work 40 hours a week and after work I’m all out of spoons tbh but I always make sure to put in the quality time with my son. <br><br>I give him everything he ever needs. I take him on a trip somewhere in the country every year. I take him to the movie theater every month. I make sure he has everything he needs and plenty of things he wants. I take him fishing and to football games. I buy him costumes. I read him his favorite stories before bed and give him a kiss goodnight and a hug every morning. I’m never too tired to tell him I love him. <br><br>But you know what? I’m tired. I’m SO tired. I don’t have enough energy to do anything for myself, after putting in 8 hours working and then coming home to do it all. I don’t have any time for myself. I don’t even have a car of my own because the car is in her name and I can’t afford to buy a new one. <br><br>I love my son but sometimes I want to stop doing it all. And that makes me feel super guilty. I feel like I’m a bad dad for wanting to take a break from being the fun dad. I want to be sad and not have to pretend everything’s ok. I want to be able to cry without scaring him. <br><br>I guess my question is, should I feel this way? Should I feel guilty about wanting to take a break and just be sad sometimes?
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