I'm quietly drifting out of my mom's life.

A little backstory, my father was abusive but my mom is a narcissist. Even as a kid, I thought it was a little shitty that my mom wouldn't even try to move us out of the house when he beat us. I know she didn't have a real job but even at 11 years old I worked at a gas station and was able to get food for myself.<br><br>Growing up, my mom would constantly criticize me, talk about how I was ugly, I was overweight and I made her sick to look at me, I was a slut, I was stupid, I was lazy, I probably wasn't her kid. I managed to graduate high school and move out but she would constantly ask my roommates if I was working or if I was just smoking pot and leaching off them. They were very good to me and also hated my mother. <br><br>I live with a different group of people now but she still keeps this narrative about how I can't hold down a job and I only live with people because they feel bad for me and I don't want to live with her. She's not that innocent, I know she got pregnant with my older brother by fucking around while my dad was away and I have no doubt she would do the same thing again. She even would tell me that I was ugly because my nose wasn't shaped like hers and I must have been my father's bastard child. <br><br>I'm 29 now and haven't lived with her in 11 years but she's still butting her nose in my business, wearing my clothes, criticizing me for everything. She will say I'm not a good mom because I bought my kids processed food instead of cooking something but she was never a cook and never wanted to do anything more than smoke cigarettes and booze. <br><br>For the past 5 years I've been quietly drifting out of her life. She constantly texts me at work and I haven't been answering her. If she gets something for my kids, she will text me and tell me to come get it before the day is over or she will throw it out. She wants to lessen her responsibility to them but still feel like she's giving me a hard time. So I just don't answer and I have to tell her other people have gotten it or one of my roommates picked it up or I was busy. <br><br>I have never blocked her number but I don't answer her calls or texts. I will answer my dad's calls or texts just to see how he's doing and I let her know that. She gets mad and tries to convince me to block him but I tell her I will when I block her. <br><br>I have not spent any time with her since 2019 and that was because my brother got his ass kicked and I had to help pick him up. I've told her she's not invited to my wedding (which I don't know if I will get married again) and she's not welcome at my house. <br><br>I feel like if I have to do anything else to cut her out, I will. I've moved out of every house she lived in. I've stopped taking her money. I've stopped using her phone plan. I've stopped spending time with her. I've stopped answering her calls and texts. I'm starting to ponder if I should move to a different state and I know I'm not going to invite her over to my house.<br><br>It's not that I hate her, I am not a hateful person. I don't like to wish bad things on people, I don't even like to smash them on the road. But with my mom, I am just not interested. I don't want to know her. I don't want to hear her voice. I don't want her near me or my children. I don't want to hear her opinions or have to answer her questions. I am respectfully drifting out of her life and I think, once we have paid off my car and house, we will move to another state. She has no reason to come visit me and, if she has to fly to get there, I know she won't. I'm not going to bury her when she dies and I don't think I will go to her funeral. I wish her the best but I'm living my life, not hers.