Woman-hațe?

First post on this subreddit. <br><br>Taking my story short. A girl harassed me for 11 months, she wanted to sleep with me. Told me she wanted to have a kid with me. She even said she loved me. I was polite, never told her I hated her. I told her I would love I she left me alone, but she was persistent. Took my number in a party, came to my home and brought me money, clothes, many things, event though I told her I did not need them. Taking advantage of I she saw my brother at home, she asked him to leave me with her, she said “we are gonna do something.” She did it infront of my family. She had no shame. Told me she wanted to take my virginity, she wanted to sleep with me. I kept saying no. She said she was poor and wanted me to take her out. She took me out, paid for herself and said “now you owe me something.” I was 22 when this happened. I did not know how to handle it. Eventually, I had to take a stand. One day, she came to my job and I told her “I do not want to see you again.” She looked at me with hate. <br><br>Last year, I was seeing a girl. One of my former students, 19 years old. She told me she wanted to know me. We went out for coffee and that was it. She was amazed when I did not kissed her at the end of the date. She wanted to kiss me, but I told her I did not have interest. She kept talking I was rude. I told her that was none of her business. I am not rude to aproach her. She invited me to the cinema, and I told her I could not go. She said “why? You don’t like me?”. I told her “no, I don’t like you. You are rude and childish.” She blocked me and went to tell all my friends that I was rude. They kept asking me what happened. I told them the truth. They believed me and told me I was rude because I don’t like her. They told me I should be nice to her because she is young and silly. <br><br>I took my mother to a dermatologist. The doctor was young, maybe 25. She looked at me and smiled. I smiled back, but she kept looking. She looked at me and said “Ah, handsome boy! But I have to attend your mom now”. My mom looked embarrassed. I did not told her anything, she just liked at me. I looked at her and asked if she was finished. She looked annoyed and said “no, I am not finished. I will ask you” to my mom. I told her that it was not intented to her. She smiled sarcastically and said “I am not silly. I know what you are doing.” <br><br>Why women aproach and harass people who does not want them? People says that is not harassment, but assualt! Why women has no respect? Why I am considered rude when I keep my boundaries? I am a victim, but I get the blame?