Update : My (33f) ex (31m) is getting married, and his mother is bullying me to attend the wedding.

I was so deeply touched by everyone's comments, I did not expect this much support and outpouring of love. I am not sure I can respond to everyone, but thank you so much from the bottom of my heart! When I posted my story, I was still so unsure of what to do, but after reading the comments, I was able to delete the text thread not feeling guilty.<br><br>The update is that he called me a few days ago, and I told him I definitely was not going to come for the wedding. I let him know exactly what the situation was, and how bad his mother treated me. He was surprised that I was still getting demands from his mother, and he said he thought he had told her to leave me alone after my text.<br><br>Long story short, he said he was going to get his mother off my back, and that he would have the situation fixed the next day. A few days went by, and I received an extremely unusual text from his mother's phone to my phone. I am not sure if he changed her phone settings to English (because she normally sends me Vietnamese texts), but he was right, she did sound like a completely different person. She was apologetic, respectful, polite, and kind. I was really confused, and I didn't know what to think.<br><br>I asked her if this was really her, and she said yes. She didn't know why I would say that, but I told her exactly what the comments said: that she was using a sock puppet account to bully me. She denied it, and said she was genuinely sorry if she had caused me so much emotional pain. She said it was not her fault, and that she was being blackmailed, but that she was not going to go into the details. She said she was happy that I was doing well, and that she hoped I could find a good husband. She said she was moving on and wished me good luck. I was skeptical, but thought if she was really being blackmailed, I should try to forgive her.<br><br>I apologized for any pain I caused her family, and told her I forgave her. I wished her the best for the wedding. She thanked me, and said she wished me the best too. She said the incident was in the past, and that she wanted to move on. I was really shocked at how sincere and genuine she sounded.<br><br>The next day, I received another text from her. She said that she wasn't going to lie to me anymore, and that it was really my ex. She said she was sorry for the pain she caused me, and that she was really sorry for what she did. She admitted to lying and bullying me. She apologized for using my medical condition against me.<br><br>She said her son made her delete all the texts of her abusing me, and that he had the texts of her telling me to kill myself deleted. She apologized for telling me to kill myself, and that she was truly sorry. She begged me to forgive her. She said she was blackmailed, and that her son had been blackmailing her after she found out that he was lying about me. She said she was so angry and hurt when she found out, but that she thought it was all her fault for not treating me better.<br><br>She said that after he found out she knew the truth about him, he threatened to cut her off financially. She said she was too proud to admit the truth, and that she felt obligated to stand by her son like she had promised. She said she was too afraid to stand up to him, and that she knew he would ruin her life if she didn't obey him. She said she loved him too much, and that it was all her fault for spoiling him too much.<br><br>She said after I posted my story on Reddit, he was furious and yelling at her. She said he had never been that angry before, and that she was really scared. She said she realized that she was living in constant fear of her own son, and that she was too afraid to admit she was the villain. She said she thought she had to protect her own son, but that she got punished instead.<br><br>She said she was being blackmailed by her son, and that he threatened to cut her off financially. She said she did not know what to do, and that she was too ashamed to tell anyone. She said she was too proud to admit the truth, and that she felt obligated to stand by her son like she had promised. She said she was too afraid to stand up to him, and that she knew he would ruin her life if she didn't obey him.<br><br>She begged me for forgiveness, and said that she could barely sleep because she felt so much guilt. She said she knew she was the one who ruined my life, and that it was all her fault. I apologized for putting her family in a difficult position, and said I forgave her. I said I hoped she could find a way to heal and move on from all this, and that I wished her and her family all the best.<br><br>I blocked her number after that, because I didn't think it was healthy to talk to her anymore. A few days later, my ex called me and said his mother barely slept or ate ever since he found out that I posted my story. He said she was so distraught and had been begging him to forgive her. He said she promised to never interfere with his life again, and that she would never tell him who to marry.<br><br>He said that after he blackmailed her, he felt guilty because he realized he had stooped to her level. He said he really missed me, and that he knew that I was the only one for him. He said he was considering calling off the wedding, and that he wanted to try again. He said he wished we could go back to how it was before, but he knew that it couldn't be the same.<br><br>I told him I was flattered, but I wasn't interested in trying again. I said I wished him the best for his wedding, but I wasn't going to attend. He said I was justified in feeling the way I did, and that he didn't blame me for not wanting to try again. He said he was going to marry the woman he was engaged to, but that he would never forget me. He said he would try to fix his relationship with his mother, and that he would try to be a better person.<br><br>I wished him and his bride all the best for the wedding, and that I hoped she would be happy with him. He said he would always love me, and I said I would always love him too. I told him I hoped he would find happiness, and that I would miss him so much. I told him I would never forget him, and that he would always be in my heart. He said the same back, and I hung up the phone in tears.<br><br>The wedding is going to happen in a week. His fiancée is very pretty, and I really hope they will be happy together. I am not going to lie and say I am not hurt that he is marrying another woman. Of course I am hurt, and of course I feel betrayed and rejected. It is ok that I am hurt, and it is ok to feel my feelings. I am going to take some time to heal, and I am going to surround myself with people who love me.<br><br>Thank you everyone so much for your kind words, and for being my friends <3.