"I'm going to die soon"

I (M38) met my lovely wife (F32) when I was 17. We have been married for 21 years and apart from her having a miscarriage about 10 years ago, we have never had any trouble in the entire relationship. No fights, no cheating, no arguments. I would call her my best friend. We have two beautiful little girls (4,6). My life is great.<br><br>About two years ago, my wife was diagnosed with advanced ovarian cancer. The doctors said there was nothing to be done, and that she didn't have long to live. She was given 3 months to a year to live. 2 years later, she's still here, and apart from some discomfort and minor pain, she's living a normal life. But she's absolutely convinced that she is going to die very soon, and she wants to make sure that I and the girls are well taken care of when she's gone. I know I shouldn't complain, that I'm lucky to have her for this long, but I never expected to lose my wife, and I'm terrified.<br><br>She wants me to get a new job in a different location in order to be close to her family. I'm terrified to leave my current job, especially in this economy, but she insists that she wants her family to be able to help with the girls when she's gone. I don't know her family well, and I don't trust them, but she's adamant that this is what she wants. She wants to move to this location as well, but she wants to keep it a secret from her family that we're moving for them to be able to help us. She wants them to think that we're moving because of her poor health, and that she wants to be close to her mother. I don't know what to do, as I don't want to go against her wishes, but I'm terrified that I am making a great mistake.<br><br>She also wants me to hire an in-person nanny, but I don't think there's a need for it, as the girls are still young, and I can take care of them myself. Moreover, hiring a nanny will make us live in a more expensive location, which I'm not sure is sustainable for me alone once she's gone.<br><br>She left a note with instructions on how to take care of her (my wife's) death. I found the note in her diary along with her passwords, where she wants her social media and email accounts to be deleted. She also wants the 401(k) money to go to her family, and has put my name and our daughters' names as the beneficiaries. She said that it's her way of asking forgiveness for not being able to take care of her parents while they were alive. I don't know how to feel about this, but I know that I will fulfill her wish.<br><br>She wants me to make sure that the girls are raised knowing about God and their faith, but I'm an atheist and I don't want to push my daughters into any particular religion. I want them to be able to choose for themselves. She said that she wants me to reassure her that I will follow her wish, but I don't know what to do. I want to fulfill her wishes, but I'm terrified that I'm making mistakes that I won't be able to correct.<br><br>I understand that she's scared, and I don't want to give her any more reasons to be worried, but I feel like I'm stuck between doing what she wants and doing what I think is the best for me and my daughters. It feels so wrong to be having this discussion, as she's still alive, but I need to make these decisions now. I want to give her the reassurance she needs, but I don't know how to do that anymore.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>TL;DR: Wife diagnosed with terminal cancer 2 years ago and wants to make sure I and our daughters are taken care of when she's gone. I'm scared to make the decisions she wants me to make as I don't know if they're the best decisions for us.