AITA for telling my son to get a job

I am 75 years old. My wife passed away 16 years ago. I have 2 kids, son and daughter. My son is 35 and has no children. He is severely overweight and has several medical issues. He has a 3 bedroom home that he inherited from my wife and I. He lives alone in the house with his cat. He is disabled and on social security disability. He gets $1500 per month from social security.<br><br>My daughter is married with 2 kids. She lives about 30 minutes from my son. Her family is very close, we are all very tight-knit. <br><br>I walked into the kitchen and my daughter and son were talking about him selling his house. He said that he is having a tough time doing things by himself and he wants to move into an assisted care community. He wants to sell his house and he would use that money to pay for the assisted care. My daughter said that she understood and she would be happy to help him with the transition. While they were talking I was listening and wasn't paying attention until they mentioned that they were going to throw out all of his furniture because it was so worn out. My blood started to boil at the mention of that. My wife spent a lot of time furnishing and decorating that house. My son and daughter grew up there and we had a lot of happy times there. <br><br>I recounted to them all the memories we made in that home and that house is a new beginning when their mother passed away. I told them that even though my son was disabled and unable to work he should get a job to pay for the assisted care community himself. My children were both taken aback that I was so fervently against the idea of selling the house. My daughter was upset that I mentioned him getting a job, she said it was no different than her getting a job to pay for his assisted living. She reminded me that she has 2 kids to take care of and I should be more understanding of my son's situation. My son has been a shy introvert all his life and he hasn't worked a job in over 10 years. He said that no one would hire him because of his disabilities. I told him he could always work at home. He said he doesn't know what kind of jobs he would be able to do at home and he told me he doesn't want to live in a home with 30 other people who have different disabilities and medical issues. <br><br>My daughter and son asked me to move out of the house. I have been living with my son since my wife passed away and I inherited the house from our children. I have paid all of the bills the last 16 years. My son has never paid me to live with me. Which is partly why I am upset that he is trying to sell the house. He wont have a place to live if he sells the house and he wont have assisted care if I don't pay for it. I won't pay for it. I am tired of enabling him. <br><br>AITA for telling my son to get a job or get out?