How do I stop dating women who run away from their problems?

I'm 22m, my 2 ex girlfriend's each were victims of abuse, and they ran away from their problems instead of dealing with them.<br><br>My first ex, ran away from home because of her abusive dad. She has never dealt with that abuse since, and has therefore never gotten closure or moved on. The remaining baggage from that dramatic situation still haunts her to this day, she freaks out whenever the subject of her dad is brought up, and she develops psychosomatic illnesses and has massive meltdowns. <br><br>My second ex, ran away from her emotionally abusive ex, which led to her going to therapy. Therapy apparently just made her worse, she started becoming clingy and weaponized her past trauma in an attempt to make me stay. I broke things off with her, but we stayed friends after that. She was unable to cope with the breakup, even though she initiated breakup talks with me and even though it was a mutual breakup. In the end, I had to end our friendship due to her clinginess.<br><br>I've had enough of dating damaged women. I want a healthy relationship without all that drama. How do I stop dating these women? What are the red flags I should be looking out for?