My husband (M44) is jealous of my best friend (M35)

My husband (M44) is jealous of my best friend (M35). I'm a (F36) and my husband and I have been married for 9 years. We have 3 kids together, a girl and 2 boys.<br><br>My best friend, let's call him Alex, has been my best friend for 28 years. Alex and I went to school together from the age of 7 through 18. We were inseparable in school. We even went to the same high school. Alex was the one who was always there for me. My parents were always busy with work or other things so I was usually alone at home and Alex used to come to my house and we would eat dinner together then do our homework. I would also go to his house to hang out. We were so inseparable that people used to think we were siblings and even family members. We went to different colleges but remained close. Alex stayed a virgin until he was 23 years old and I was the one who took his virginity. We lost our virginities to each other, but at that time in our lives, we never thought of each other in a romantic way. We were more like siblings. We would also confide in each other about our relationships and whenever I broke up with a boyfriend, Alex would be the one who I went to for comfort and vice versa. <br><br>When I was 28, I met my husband and we fell deeply in love. We were married a year after we met. We have 3 kids together. My husband knows that Alex and I are best friends. He has met Alex on only 3 occasions, and has never had an issue with Alex. However, he has never liked our friendship. He isn't fond of the fact that Alex and I have known each other for most of our lives. He also isn't fond of the fact that we have so many shared experiences together and that Alex knows me so well. During our early years of marriage, my husband would sometimes accuse me of cheating on him with Alex. I denied this, explaining that Alex and I have only ever been platonic friends. Alex and I only see each other every 4-5 years because we live in different states. We keep in touch through messages and phone calls. <br><br>Recently, I had a huge fight with my husband. It was a misunderstanding but what he said was really hurtful. I cried very much and when I calmed down and stopped crying, I phoned Alex to talk to him. Alex is the only one I trust to listen to me without judgement. My husband saw me on the phone and thought I was talking to my mom but when he found out it was Alex, he got mad. He shouted at me saying that I go running to my ex whenever we have problems. He said I don't love him and I love Alex. I told him no, Alex is just my best friend and I trust him, but there was no getting through to him. He wouldn't let me explain. <br><br>I love my husband and I don't want to leave him, but sometimes I feel like I am being punished for having a friend. My husband should be grateful that Alex and I are friends because our friendship has helped me become a better wife and mom. Alex has always been there for me with his advice and he has been a shoulder to cry on. I've cried to Alex more times than I've cried to my husband. Although my husband and I are happily married, my husband has never been there for me when I needed him. I've confided in my husband when I needed advice and he would just laugh and say I'm being dramatic. My husband doesn't even comfort me when I am sad.<br><br>I don't know what to do. To me, my friendship with Alex is nothing bad. We are just platonic friends. My husband is the one who makes our friendship seem weird. I've never even hugged or kissed my husband's best friend of 30 years so why can't he trust me? I also think it's unfair to tell me I can't be friends with Alex. I've known Alex for my whole life. We grew up together, we went to school together, we took our virginities to each other, we confided in each other during our relationships, he helped me pick out my prom dress and my wedding dress. Alex is like a brother to me. It's like my husband is telling me that I can't have a brother. I can't imagine my life without Alex in it. I feel like I am being punished for having a friend. My husband should be grateful for Alex. <br><br>TLDR: My husband (M44) is jealous of my best friend (M35) who I took my virginity to. I'm a (F36) and my husband and I have been married for 9 years. We have 3 kids together and I've known my best friend since I was 7 years old.