My (36m) wife (33f) found out I tourist f**ged a porn star a few days after we started dating and is using it to guilt trip me into breaking up.

I’m not sure where else to go for relationship advice. My problem might be a first as I’m not sure tourist fucking a porn star would be common so I’m not sure what’s normal.<br><br>When I was 26 I had a quick one night stand with a local porn star in a large US city I was visiting for work. <br><br>I was aware she was a porn star and so were thousands of other local guys. For some odd reason she was in a punk band and me and my coworkers were at the show drinking after we met with a client. She was very nice and we ended up having sex that night. <br><br>I never told my then girlfriend of the time but that’s a whole different story (seemed like a bad idea and I was caught up in the moment).<br><br>Fast forward eight years, my wife and I got together and she was looking at my phone to put in her number when she saw the texts with said porn star. I denied for 10 min until I had no choice but to admit what happened. <br><br>It really wasn’t a big deal and it was 8 years ago at that point but she was so enraged that I lied to her. She said how I betrayed her trust and she couldn’t be with a liar. This went on for a few weeks as she was so angry she wouldn’t even talk to me.<br><br>I eventually was able to convince her that I wasn’t lying and that it just wasn’t important enough to admit right away (I’m still not convinced it is). She admitted she felt betrayed that I kept it from her and she needs time to process. <br><br>I feel this is absurd but she just uses the fact that I lied as a reason to feel betrayed. I admit I did lie but it wasn’t malicious. I feel like she’s using this to break up with me as she’s just being stubborn and this is her justification.<br><br>What do I do now? This was 3 weeks ago I can’t just wait for her to realize this is getting absurd. I feel like she’s just waiting for me to beg but I’m at a loss as this was so trivial to me and seemed so long ago.<br><br>Edit: I feel like people are being very hard on me. This wasn’t malicious at all. I didn’t do anything to embarrass her. This woman was not some random hooker on the street. <br><br>Edit2: To clarify, I hid this for 2 reasons. I felt she would not understand and would view this as embarrassing if it got out to her family so I wanted to spare her the embarrassment. <br><br>This woman wasn’t hiding her profession and it’s not like I had no clue she was a porn star. I knew and I didn’t tell anyone because it wasn’t anyone’s business. <br><br>My wife blows this way out of proportion and it’s not an issue to be with a porn star. She would want me to keep it a secret just to spare her embarrassment if it got out. <br><br>What I did wasn’t malicious. I feel like this sub is just attacking me for doing something I didn’t even view as important enough to tell anyone. I didn’t do anything wrong and I’m sorry I hurt someone I really love but she’s being dramatic.<br><br>Edit3: It’s been brought to my attention that this could be seen as embarrassing for her. I feel like I have addressed this. What I did was not done to embarrass my wife. I don’t have any pictures or videos. This was a “normal” one night stand that was consensual. <br><br>She would not have wanted me to tell anyone and I felt that it was her right to keep that private. She didn’t do anything wrong and I don’t feel she’s a bad person.