After years of trying my parents finally acknowledge that my brother is a narcissist

I'm 30 years old and have two younger brothers. The youngest one is 23 now. He is a narcissist and has been a burden on our parents his entire life. <br><br>I'm not going to get into too much of the details but it's been an agonizing road to get here. Every time something bad happened with my brother my parents would explain it away. He is someone who's done things like literally shit in public, had extreme melt downs since he was a toddler, been to multiple different specialists and therapies his entire life, and has been kicked out of multiple schools. I've always felt like I live in a different reality because my parents have always managed to spin it to make it seem like my brother was the victim. <br><br>I managed to move away and start a life for myself but my parents are still dealing with the fallout of their decisions and his behaviors. He's had over a hundred jobs. They're in deep debt because of all the hospitalizations and treatments and court fees for various things he's done. They've been squatting in our old house for 5 years because he wouldn't move out. They've dealt with police and ambulances and psychiatric wards and interventions and prohlems with other kids bullying him when he was little because he smelled so bad. <br><br>My brother has never held down a job. He barely graduated high school because they let him retake the same classes until he passed and our school system allowed him to leave school at 11am every day. I think they even retroactively changed his grades to make it seem like he passed. He's been in jail multiple times for things like breaking and entering and harassment and assault. He's tried to kill himself so many times and my parents always manage to spin it in a way that makes them feel sympathetic towards my brother and unwilling to set limits. <br><br>Last night my brother stayed with me because he was meant to be evicted today. He has until midnight to leave his current place. My brother is obsessed with my husband and whenever he's at my place he wants to smoke weed with him and talk about the "vibe" of my house. He has this entire delusion of what it would be like to live in a house like I do. He genuinely believes that he has the life experience to be able to live alone in a home and take care of it. He doesn't understand that my husband and I spend hours every day cleaning and that I've been doing this since I was 4 and my brother has rarely cleaned anything in his life. I let my brother stay at my place and I made sure he understood that he was not allowed to smoke drugs in my home. When he stayed with me last night he smelled so bad. My husband said he thought he was going to throw up because his smell was so bad. <br><br>My parents came to pick him up and took him out to eat and my dad was telling my brother that he is 100% to blame for being homeless. He told my brother that he has been a burden his whole life and that he needs to take responsibility for his decisions and his health and his life. He said he would never let our brother live with him and my mom ever again. <br><br>After my parents dropped my brother off at his place they came to my house to talk. They let me vent and I thanked them for finally acknowledging what I have been saying. My mom immediately started backpedaling. She started saying that my dad didn't mean it that my brother is 100% to blame but he meant he's 99% to blame. She went on a whole rant defending my brother and saying that he's been misunderstood his whole life and that he's been treated poorly and that people don't know how hard it is to be him. She said that my brother is the real victim and that everyone has wronged him. I love my parents and I'm trying to be understanding but it hurts seeing how they still don't see how much pain they're making for my brother by coddling him.