My boyfriend of 2 years told me that the only reason he started dating me was because he was a “virgin and wanted to lose it to someonehot” and that “it was a good experience and would help him gain more confidence to approach other girls”

Ok guys, first of all, I am NOT the type to believe in labels and all that. I have dated all races, body types, back in high school I used to think that I was a lesbian but then I got a boyfriend and figured i wasn’t. I am very open to a lot of things and am very open minded. <br><br>Back in 2019 I swiped on this guy on bumble and got matched. Before this, I had been working on myself ( losing weight, working out, self care, learning to take better care of my skin and how to do my makeup, eat healthier...etc.) and I still do! We went on our first date to a restaurant and he was super nice, we had a lot to talk about, we were both average looking and compatible and I thought not bad, I’ll give you a chance. <br><br>He has a few hobbies that I really dislike, and he does not like some of mine. He’s not into the gym and I don’t like playing video games. We did try a few times to do what we like and didn’t mind trying but it wasn’t for us! We were basically just hanging out and watching movies all the time. We never had sex until the 3rd month of being together. We talked about our past relationships first before but I didn’t expect this. So he has no experience with kissing, touching, anything. <br><br>For a few months, he was pretty on and off with me, he would tell me that he was back to being single, then a few days later he would text me and say he still liked me. I gave him multiple chances but eventually just told him that I was done and we broke up for a month. <br><br>He texted me saying “I never ever been in a relationship or anything before you and I still don’t know what I’m doing. I do like you. I want to try again if you want to?” I said yes and we got back together. <br><br>The next few months were pretty good. He seemed happy and so was I. I asked him multiple times if he had been with anyone else during the time we broke up and he said no. <br><br>Last night we had a big fight basically about how I still knew more about relationships and he did not like it. He said he was still a virgin when he met me and he has no experience and I have been with multiple people before and I have more experience in everything. He got annoyed and said “I don’t even know why I’m even dating you. You’re sohot and I know any other guy would love to be with you but I’m still the virgin basically so I don’t get why I get to be with you. You’ve been with way more people than me and have way more experience! You know more things.” He said all of this in a disgusted tone and I said, “so you don’t like that I’ve been with other men before?” And he said “I just don’t understand why they would even choose me! I’m not even good looking. I’m just a normal dude with no abs and no balls and I’m still the virgin and you’ve been with way more people basically so I don’t get why you’re with me.” Then I said “I don’t care about Looks. I like guys who are genuine and care for me and I like all body types and races.” He looked at me and said, “are you trying to sound cool when you’re not? Why would you like that?” He said it in a cocky sickening tone. I told him “just be honest, why did you ask me out?” Then he said “I thought you looked really hot and I was still a virgin and I wanted to gain more experience and I thought you could show me! You’re the perfect person. You’re hot, you seem nice, I thought you’d be perfect to help me gain some experience and figure some stuff out basically.” I asked him “what about when we got back together, did you still feel like that?” He said of course basically. I asked him “did you ever like me?” He said “yeah. I think I do now. I do like you but I also thought you were really hot and I wanted you to help me gain some experience” I said “so you only like how I look and thought we could fool around til you got more confident? You used me and lied to me and told me how much you cared about me and how much you loved me and all you wanted was to use me to get experience?!” He said “I still do like you though! But basically yes. That’s what I wanted to begin with, but I didn’t expect to be with you for so long, I didn’t expect us to last this long! I guess I did really like you but still not as much as I liked your looks” <br><br>I immediately broke up with him, picked up my stuff and left. He called me Genuinely upset saying he still likes me and he didn’t mean to hurt me. I told him “well I guess you could say I’m ahot chick who showed you some new experiences. Now you have a lot more confidence and can approach other women right?” He said “yeah I guess so. I basically used you... so thanks, I guess...” <br><br>Im still shaking and in shock but I am also very angry. I never ever expected this and thought he cared about me but he didn’t and used me this whole time. He could have told me at the beginning that’s all he wanted. I probably would have said no but at least I would have had the choice.