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Should I(28M) end relationship? Girlfriend (28F) wants to travel the world, I don't.

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I’ve been with my girlfriend(28F) for almost 3 years and things are great. I love her so much and I can absolutely see us getting married. I feel like we have almost everything in life figured out. We are financially stable, live in a nice place, careers are going well and we have a lot of fun together. I feel like the only thing that is missing is us actually buying a house together(we rent) and planning for kids someday. Neither of us have been in a serious relationship before mine was the first and I think we have figured a lot out on the fly.<br><br>She recently has been talking more about how she wants to travel the world. With all the COVID stuff there was no point in traveling for almost 2 years. Also money has been tight and we wanted to save up for a house as well. Now she is really pushing the subject saying that since she is turning 30 in 2 years she wants to travel a lot. She has never gone on a vacation outside of the country before so I get her desire to explore the world. However, I do not like traveling. It's not like I hate it but I just don't get why it is such a big deal. For me it is fine to travel every once in awhile but I would prefer not to as I could be spending my time on other things like activities with hobbies.<br><br>She wants to travel extensively over the next 2 years and I don't really know what to do. I said I could go on a few trips with her but in my mind I just won't have the money for it. I make a lot more than her so I could easily fund the trips but the way I see it is if I go on a few trips with her then that is a good compromise. She was not happy with my suggestion saying that she needs to go on more than a couple trips. I feel like if I am willing to go on a couple trips that should be enough. I am not someone who enjoys traveling so why should I go on extensive travel. I don't know if we are just incompatible because of this or am I being a bit selfish saying I am only willing to go on a few trips. I feel like I am willing to compromise but she is not.

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