My Aboriginal boyfriend had a tantrum over our kiss goodbye and I'm totally confused

We've been together for 8 months and been living together for 3 months. We got together after knowing each other for two years. We're in our late thirties.<br><br>Everything is good except this one thing he does. Whenever we're about to be apart for more than 3 hours, he will sit next to me, pick up my face and force me to kiss him how he likes it. I used to resist but a little too hard, so he would pull away and call me racist. I never said anything racist. I just hate being grabbed like that. He was getting mad at the way I reacted for a while, but then realised I don't mean it maliciously, I just hate being touched like that, so I can kiss him appropriately.<br><br>Last night we had plans to go to the football but it got cancelled last minute so we were just hanging out at home. I was cooking dinner and he just stopped next to me and said "blow on my cheek, that's cold" I've never heard of blowing on someones cheek, so I just stood still. He looked at me funny and said "kiss goodbye". I said "why? We're going to be in the same room"<br><br>He said "it's a cultural thing, if you're going to be in the same room, you don't need to" and quickly pulled my face to his lips to kiss him. I don't like being grabbed so quickly, so I pulled my head back and he pulled my face back and kissed me really roughly. I started to feel claustrophobic because he's holding me by the face, so I tried to pull back. He got mad and said "I was about to go outside, stop pulling back, just blow on my cheek". I said "no, I don't want to be kissed like that" he said "you're not showing me any respect! I'm showing you my culture and you won't participate? Do you know how much respect I have for you? I respect your culture. You're Australian, that's your culture. This is my culture" I said "it's not my culture, it's just Australian culture". He said "I don't care, I respect it. You need to show me some respect. If I don't show you my culture, how will you learn? But you always refuse to do this simple act, you get so angry. Do you know how much it hurts to be refused my culture? Im just trying to show you respect" I said "respect? You're forcing me to do something I don't want to do. That's not respect"<br><br>I got really confused because I feel like he has it backwards. He was trying to make me feel guilty but I don't feel bad at all. I feel like if he forces me to do something and yells at me, he's the one who should be feeling bad. He tried to kiss me again and I just stood still.<br><br>To make sure I'm not just overreacting, i asked some of my family and friends their opinion. They all said it was disrespectful for me to say no, and that's how he was raised so it's not his fault. They said I need to respect him. Even my aboriginal friends said I was the one at fault.<br><br>So what? Do I just have to put myself through physical and mental pain to keep him happy? It feels like the whole nation is united against me.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Edit: I don't know if this makes a difference but I've known him for a while and he's never held out on me. When I met him he was dating my friend, but that broke down a few days later and he asked me out, and we've always had a great time together as friends.<br><br>Edit: I'm so amazed at how much support you guys have given me. I didn't expect it. And I'm even more amazed at the amount of people who have had the same thing happen to them. I don't know what to do, my heart is heavy. I think I need to breakup with him. I love him so much, but I really hate being grabbed. I don't want to judge him too much because my family were ripped away when I was a baby. I always feel sorry for him. Aboriginal people go through a lot.