AITA for not giving my daughter her parents' jewelry after she betrayed my husband's trust?

My late-in-life baby is the light of our lives. We are super duper proud of her, and never dreamed of her doing anything to make us feel otherwise. My husband and I are each others soulmates, each other’s best friends and partner for over 40 years. <br><br>We had her in her 40s, so when she was a child, we bought her some of our parents, and my husband’s grandparent’s jewelry to pass down. It was something we thought would mean a great deal to her. <br><br>She is an adult now in her 20s, and a student. She and her fiance are married, and in the last year, they got engaged. A few months ago, she reached out to me and asked if I could get my husband to give her the jewelry. She said she wanted to get her nails done the day of her wedding, and she wanted to sell the jewelry to help pay for the wedding.<br><br>I was a little taken back, but I said I would talk with my husband. He is the ultimate softie. He said, “Of course honey. We want our girl to be happy.” I did not agree with his softness and told him it was not right to give away such a valuable item for wedding expenses. He said, “It’s worth it to make our girl happy.”<br><br>Well, our daughter did not end up getting married. A month into her engagement, she found out her fiance was cheating on her. She was absolutely heartbroken. The guy blew it when he confessed to her he was still in love with his ex best friend, and he was planning to leave her for this girl. She was furious, but more hurt than anything. She ended up kicking his ass out, and now she is single still in a relationship with the cheater. <br><br>She surprised us recently by announcing she and her ex are together, and they are getting married in a few months. We were shocked, to say the least. <br><br>When she came over to talk to us about it, we made it clear this was wrong. She said he is sorry, and he swears he is not cheating. We said it did not matter if he is sorry, or if he is not cheating now. We were upset she took us for fools. <br><br>When we told her she should not be spending a lot of money on a wedding, she got all upset and said, why not? It’s her special day. I said, we understand, but we are not going to help fund a wedding for someone who has betrayed our trust and continues to see a cheating bf. <br><br>She got all mad at me, and later my husband for saying we were not going to give her the jewelry to help fund the wedding. She said we are being assholes, and we need to get over it, and we are overreacting. We said, it’s not right for someone who has shown they do not respect us or our trust. <br><br>AITA?