(Updated from r/confession) My best friend begged me not to date my boyfriend years ago, it ended up being the best decision of my life.

The worst part is I probably wouldn't have done so if it wasn't for my best friend's "selfish" request. She's not the type to do that either so I was curious and took that as a chance to get to know a man I NEVER would have gotten to know if it wasn't for this.<br><br>The short version of this story is: my best friend told me the guy I was crushing on in high school was not good, so I ended up "hating" him, only to meet him again years later and it completely change my perspective in life. The long version is below:<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Back in high school, everyone used to hang out in a nearby parking lot to socialize. During that time, I met a guy named C. He's slightly older than me and had no idea I had a MASSIVE crush on him in high school. I never had the courage to talk to him so I just watched from afar as he would hang with his own friends a few cars away. Never in my life would I have imagined we would end up together years later. The reason it never happened was because of my best friend.<br><br>My best friend M has been my best friend since junior high. We've been through thick and thin together and we share everything with each other. Back in high school, I would always talk to her about C and how much I had a crush on him. We would stalk his FB page and she would look at his friends list to see if any were single and I could date. It was all in good funsies to laugh at and it was never serious. Anyways, one of our friends ended up dating C and that crushed any ideas I had about dating him. Fast forward to after high school, that friend and C broke up and I started bringing him up again to my best friend. She know how much I liked him so she was excited that maybe we COULD date now.<br><br>One day she came over and I was looking at his page again, joking that it would be "nice" to date him. She was against it and said "please leave him alone, he's not good and you know it". I asked her what she meant by that and she said "you know he's a troublemaker, you've seen the stuff he's done back in high school". I agreed but didn't think it was THAT big of a deal. I think I even laughed it off. She just repeated her statement "just leave him alone". She's not the type of person to try and stop me from doing things so it was out of character for her to be so stern about it. And she usually doesn't say things that aren't true. So I just ended up dropping the subject and never thought about it again after that. We stopped talking about him and stopped looking at his page.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>Fast forward 7 years later to March 2020, lock down has just started and I was really bored one day. I randomly ended up on Tik Tok and noticed that they've really improved the algorithm on their vids. I started watching random vids and I noticed C's face on the "for you" page. It had been YEARS since I last saw or heard of him and since I had no idea if he still lived I figured he had moved away. Anyways, back to the Tik Tok story. He was hitting a baseball into the sunset so the video itself was bright and it caught my attention. I had to do a double take to make sure it was the same person from years ago. I stalked him then and there, watched all his vids, read his bio, saw that he didn't live too far away and stalked his IG page for pics. He looked EXACTLY how I had imagined him and it was like he aged backwards. From the blue eyes to the messy hair to the bright smile, everything I had always wanted in a man he had it. Plus he liked baseball and cars. For anyone wondering, I did noticed that his Tik Tok vids showed him doing BMX tricks and skateboard tricks but didn't think anything of it. Anyways, on his IG page, I noticed that some vids showed him doing "hard" tricks on his bike and that made me more intrigued. I ended up finding his BMX channel on You Tube and spent the entire night watching his vids. I noticed that he hasn't uploaded any vids in a year and was sad thinking that he had probably moved away or was doing something else. I ended up googling BMX trick names to figure out what he was doing and then spent a few hours reading about BMX tricks online. During the night, I noticed that his IG page had posted pics of a spot very close to where I live and it made me more intrigued. So I decided to message him "what's up? We haven't talked in years, where have you been?"<br><br>At that time, I didn't even know if I was doing it because I was interested in him or if it was just to pass the time. Anyways, he responded almost immediately. We started talking and I ended up hanging out with him at his house the next day to "watch a movie". We ended up watching a documentary that he liked about art and I probably looked like a total weirdo during the whole thing because I didn't take my eyes off him. He looked even better in real life and 6'3 with short hair and blue eyes still. The documentary was pretty boring but I enjoyed it and thought it was funny how he compared some of the artists to how people are in the BMX world. After that, I just ended up hanging out with him more and more. And the more I got to know him, the more I realized how much of a great person he is. He's not troublemaker. He's a hard worker, very dedicated and the nicest guy in the world. He's also VERY genuine and passionate about the things he loves. He never wanted to quit his job and always wanted to do what HE wanted to do and not what EVERYONE else wanted him to do with his life. He spent the last 2.5 years making a movie about BMX and finished it. It was in the middle of everything that COVID has caused, he was stuck inside his apartment alone for months but he probably wouldn't have made it if he wasn't alone with himself. We realized that we both have been through similar experiences and it made talking to him VERY easy. We would talk about things that no one else I've met have ever understood. And I felt like I could trust him with my life. He also noticed that I was awkward during our first hang out so he took the time to get to know me and never judged me. He was always looking out for me and never said a wrong word. He's very smart and knows a lot about a lot of random things. He's also very funny and knows how to make light of a situation.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>It's been two years since we started dating and if it wasn't for my best friend, I would have totally ruined a massive opportunity by making dumb decisions and dating someone that isn't right for me. I probably wouldn't be where I am if it wasn't for my best friend and I know that for a FACT. I probably wouldn't even be still talking to her if I started dating him back then either.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>So here's my question: what are some times when your friend did something that you didn't really like but it ended up being a great thing that happened to you in the long run?<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>EDIT: I'm sorry for not answering any questions, I'm just a bit overwhelmed. But I just want to say, I'm not in high school, that was from 7 years ago. BMX is a sport not a crime and I realize now that I shouldn't have said troublemaker. It was something I learned about C that made me not like the people he hung out with. But it was also 7 years ago. I also never said my best friend told me he was a bad guy. I know she said troublemaker but it was something that made me look at him differently and not like him for. I also realize that I probably would have dated him if he asked but my best friend made me realize he didn't really know me or even notice me. I think also C never dated any of the girls that were in the parking lot and it was mostly guys that he hung out with. I never had a problem with him doing BMX tricks, it's actually something that made me more interested in him than anything. And he didn't join a gang, he spent the last 2.5 yrs making a video about BMX and it was really good and it's awesome that he was able to do that in life. I feel bad that people are taking this post as it going the opposite way though. BMX isn't a bad thing, it's fun and I would recommend trying it. I know it looks dangerous but it's also super fun.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>EDIT 2: to @FataMorgana7 I think there's a misunderstanding with the best friend part. I told her I had a crush on him and she said that I should stay away from him because of some things she noticed he had done. The reason I trusted her was because she never said stuff like that, she was always the type to let me do whatever I wanted without her getting involved. So it was weird when she told me to stay away from him. And I ended up listening because she was never wrong about things. She ended up being right about a lot of guys that I ended up dating and they all turned out to be cheating pigs. And no, I don't think this post was a waste of time