I just spent 30+ minutes on the phone with my dad's girlfriend.

My father (54) is disgusting and for you to truly understand how i feel about this whole situation, i need to explain a lot, i will only write this once so i hope it helps. <br>if u want me to expand on any section just let me know, or if u want more info on a topic i wrote. for example some people liked the idea of i eat a whole pizza by myself so i wrote it down. some people liked the idea that i watch a whole 30 minute anime episode so i wrote it down as well.<br>I love him and i want him to get the help he needs.<br><br>My father is NOT homeless, the house he lives in is bought and paid for. he is a college graduate, he works a 40 hour a week job as a finance manager, and he owns like 6+ rental properties and he gets enough money from his job and rentals that he could probably live comfortably if his spending habits werent so bad. i dont think he has saved up a single dollar ever in his life.<br><br>He has issues with addiction, mainly soda and junk food. right now i think he has lost 4 teeth, i hope he gets some implants or something because i dont wanna see him with dentures just yet.<br><br>My father has issues with taking care of himself. hes not able to do his own laundry, wash dishes, cook food, or clean up after himself. he only thinks about himself in the moment, he doesnt think about the future, and he never thinks about the past. hes also tone deaf so he wont let himself do anything, which is a good thing. he cant dance, cant sing, cant do anything like that.<br><br>He has mobility issues. he has a lot of fat in his legs, or so he claims. his knees may be in poor condition. idk, i havent been over to his house in a long time just because i dont want to see him. right now hes staying over at his girlfriends house.<br><br>Now, hes been in a relationship with this woman for a couple of years now. i dont like her. i like her more than i like him, because atleast shes able to hold down a job, shes got a held together house, and i dont think she has any issues with drinking.<br><br>She works as a director at a nursing home. She always says the residents are like her kids. i dont really like her as a person. i dont like how she treats my father, shes like a mother to him, shes doing all his stuff for him. doing his laundry, cooking his food, buying his groceries. i hate her for that because i think thats necessary stuff that he needs to know how to take care of himself for. <br><br>But like, i dont hate her, and i wish my dad and her could have something like Romeo and Juliet. then they could both get out of my life. hate him and not her, and i guess i wish she could be with someone who knows how to take care of himself, some one who can be called a man. hes like a baby to her, shes like his mother. its gross.<br><br>Anyway, the reason i started the thread, my fathers girlfriend called me like 30+ minutes ago. She sounded like she was in a lot of pain and trouble and i dont really know what to do. shes held together her director job for like 8 years or something now. my father has been living with her for like 2 months now i think. hes really starting to get in the way and shes stressing out like nothing else. shes got her job, shes got like 7 grandkids (not sure what the financial status is of the 7 parents) shes got my dad to deal with now. and she told me shes got some health issues. idk though, maybe my dad is lying. maybe shes lying. i dont know.<br><br>She told me whats been going on. hes literally making her cry every hour, hes leaving dirty stuff around, hes beating up one of her cats (i dont know why it hurts me like this but it really does) and hes literally like a baby to her right now. hes like a man child. you may not understand how hard it is for me to say this about my father. its hard to admit. but i want him to get help more than anything. <br><br>She told me she put him on a stipend, which means she is paying for some things for him (his car payment, his cell phone bill, his car insurance) and she told me she told him, "you dont have to pay me back, but you have to give me $X every month, you must also start doing your laundry, stopping eating so much junk food, and you have to start taking better care of yourself". he said okay, but hes never done any of that stuff since then. <br><br>So she told me hes moving back to his house. shes kicking him out. back to his house hes staying, hes gotten more disgusting than before he moved in with her, and she told me shes having a really hard time with him. he smells bad, shes stressed out that hes gonna burn her house down. shes always watching him while hes cooking and shes always scared hes gonna mess something up. shes also tired of cleaning up after him. i think he may have spilled wine on her rug, hes broken a few of her plates, and hes literally leaving empty fast food bags right out in the open like hes a dog. he always leaves his dirty socks and underwear out on the floor. she told me that she cant keep doing this. shes breaking down. shes got her director job, 7 grandkids, and shes also got health issues. hes just getting in the way. <br><br>Then she brought me into the situation. she told me that she needs someone to pick him up for her. hes got no friends, hes got no family, she is literally losing it. shes having a literal breakdown because of my dad. shes told me she is putting him in a nursing home, she is putting him in an assisted living home. right now hes living with her but hes moving tomorrow to his house. shes gonna have him stay at his house for however long the nursing home waitlist is. <br><br>I don't know what to do. I just spent over 30 minutes listening to her cry over the phone. she made me promise to do this stuff for her. she made me cry as well. i dont know what to do. i hate him and i love him at the same time. i cant believe im in this situation. i told her i would do it. i told her that i would take care of my dad for her. i told her that i would be the one to pick him up. i told her i would get him to a nursing home. i told her i would be the one to drop him off. i told her i would pick up his stuff from her house and bring it to mine, and hers, and that i would sort it out. <br><br>She told me shes gonna give me his phone number and that i have to call him. i havent talked to him in over 3 months now. i dont know what to say. i hate him but i love him, and i dont think im ready for this. she told me shes gonna text me pictures of what she wants me to pick up. idk, clothes, shoes, pillows, etc. she told me she wants me to throw anything out that is "associated with my dad" and anything that is his. she just wants anything that he doesnt need. she sounded like she was literally having a breakdown. i dont know what to do. <br><br>Shes always right but im feeling bad because hes my dad. shes telling me to throw out anything thats his. shes telling me to throw out keys, pictures, anything. anything that is his. idk. i dont have any keys to his house. hes not even gonna be living there. she told me i had to take care of it. she told me i had to sell it. i told her yes. i told her she could stay at my house, shes got no where else to go. idk. i dont have any keys to that house. idk. <br><br>She hung up. shes got a lot on her plate. shes not a bad person, shes just really busy. idk how shes stressing so much about this, shes not letting him do anything. hes literally living like a baby at her house. she is doing everything for him. <br><br>I feel so bad. like i feel so so bad. i never thought anything like this would happen. i wish i was able to take care of my father. i wish i could take care of him but i dont have the time, the resources, or the money for it. i wish i could but i just cant. <br><br>I just want my father to get the help he needs, because i love him. i want him to get the help he needs. i dont have the resources or the money to do that stuff for him. she is literally losing it, shes having a breakdown because of him. shes telling me she cant deal with it anymore. she wants to give him to anybody who will take him. she told me she is giving him away like a bad dog.<br><br>I feel so bad.<br><br>I just want my father to get the help he needs.<br><br>I feel so bad.<br><br>I just want him to get the help he needs.<br><br>To add more context on the whole house situation, like i wrote in my last update, that house is still in my fathers name and he still gets all the money from it for some reason. hes got a lawn guy, hes got a pool guy, hes got a cleaning lady that comes to the house a couple of times a