My husband is the moderator for a few different subreddits, and he genuinely thinks it’s a job

When my husband graduated college, instead of looking for a job, he came home and plays video games or plays with his dog all day. He doesn’t even look for jobs, and when I bring it up, he gets angry with me and says it’s not my concern. He graduates with a shit degree and expects a high paying job out of nowhere. He will go weeks without taking a shower, and then has the audacity to complain when I don’t want to have sex with him. He’ll go 3 days without sleeping, and then sleep for 48 hrs. He’s fractured his skull twice because of his seizures, and he still refuses to give up chugging beer all day. I’ve had to insist that he does chores, because otherwise the house would rot. I pay all the bills, cook, clean, fetch him food (he doesn’t even leave his room), arrange appointments he needs, take care of our dog, worked a full-time job, and go to school. He would be h omless, starving, and dead without me. If I was to take my money away, he’d be out of house and home. I gave him an ultimatum - get a job, or I’m leaving. He told me he was perfect the way he is, and I’m just being mean. I’ve talked to his parents, and they just say it’s not their problem. They don’t see anything wrong with the fact that he thinks he’s a victim. How am I in the wrong here?