"I'm not a slut now, i'm just a Strong Independent Woman?"

I'm 21 y/o with 3 children ane a fiance but i was in a relationship with him when i had all of them. I have a friend and she is 25 years old, 4 kids to different dads and she always brags about how proud she is of being single mom, and slutshaming me. she said that i'm a slut bc i was in an open relationship with my fiance before and we had sex together and separately with others and she questioned me why i got 3 kids with him. I answered that bc i love him so much but she said that it's not an excuse for me to be a slut bc i was together with a man while i was having sex with others. i dont get it why she is saying this but i just ignored her excuses. i mean what do you call her if she invitied all my bachelorette party guests on her birthday party in a club hotel and let them gangrape her till the next day?... who is a real Slut?<br><br>**UPDATE:**<br>wow didnt expect this to trend i just forgot about it. anyway i just wanted to share my concern to the reddit community and didnt expect that this would blow up. 1 week ane a month before this post i was asking for an advice if i shoulend the relationship with my ex because of his mental illness and depression issues. but i dont wanna lose him that much so i help him. he got better and proposing me and i said yes. our wedding is next year and i cant be happier to be with him for the rest fo my life. i wouldnt judge aneone for having kids by different fathers. sometimes things happen and it happen for a reason. and Slut shaming is just an excuse for losers. i never judge anyone for their past and who they are. and yeah i had sex with other people along with my fiance who now my husband to be. but invitng all our guests on her birthday in a hotel and let aneone gangrape her? thats insane. again thank you for all of your advice and support. gave me so much courage to stand up for myself <br><br>**UPDATE 2**<br><br>Me: i dont wanna lose him i love him so much it can wait i understand that he has a mental issues and i help him through it<br><br>me: i'm not a slut now i'm just a Strong Independent Woman?<br><br>Everyone: Wtf you want to end your relationship ane you're a slut too?<br><br>me: what now??