AITA for telling my husband he should stop buying me flowers and gifts

I never spend time with my husband because he is too busy.<br><br>He has two jobs, his main one in the office and his side one typing online articles for various websites.<br><br>Unfortunately he chose journalism as his career path where the pay is really low and we have to get by on very little, even after he added the side hustle.<br><br>He always says he works this much to give me and our daughter a better life.<br><br>I don’t know how much a better life flowers make but every time he has to go out for a work related event, he brings back flowers and other stuff.<br><br>I would like to spend time with him but when he gets back from a long day we expect him to spend time with his daughter instead of me.<br><br>He looks at me like I’m his loyal supporter and I’m happy to do that but I want to go out with him, talk and get to know him and have our daughter see us interact like a couple.<br><br>I think it’s the mentality of us single income households that makes me see him like he does God.<br><br>I told him multiple times it would make me so happy to go on dates with him, go out together, be able to talk.<br><br>But his reply is always work and he is sad because he said those kinds of things are what makes me happy.<br><br>So he asked me for my birthday what I would like as a gift, and I said I don’t want gifts, I would like us to just go out to a restaurant and have a meal together, maybe see a movie.<br><br>And then he promised he would.<br><br>And we had an argument about it. He argued that how could I make him go out when he was tired from work.<br><br>I told him I would give him a break, I would take care of our daughter for a week so that he can have energy.<br><br>He told me I was being selfish. I said why. He said he goes out and does many things for us, puts a roof over my head, and he never complained.<br><br>I said I didn’t make him do this, he chose to. He said he didn’t force me to stay home and take care of our daughter either. I said yeah, but I don’t complain, and it’s not like he can’t take a day off. I don’t want him to go to work, I want him to go on a date with me. I would happily take care of our daughter even if he was out getting wasted, why can’t he choose to take a day off and do this one thing.<br><br>He said I need to stop being picky, he has stockpiled my favorite snacks, he brings me dinner, he does many nice gestures.<br><br>But I would like to have a conversation and be a couple.<br><br>I said this is what one sided relationships look like. You get food and everything you want but there is no connection between us.<br><br>His argument is that yes, he works lot, but so do I. It’s hard to be a stay at home mom.<br><br>I said yeah, it is. But at least I have my daughter to talk to and keep me company as we get to spend time together.<br><br>He said he would turn down any more invitations for the sake of his free time and I said that’s exactly my point. You don’t have to. It’s a goddamn job. Do the job, ignore the invitations and have time for your family.<br><br>Anyway, he didn’t spend my birthday with me. I went to my moms and cried.<br><br>My daughter turned 1 this month and he got her a big cake and threw a big party for her.<br><br>I cried again and my mom said maybe I was being selfish, maybe I didn’t see how much he worked for us.<br><br>And I don’t know.<br><br>AITA?