My wife and I are both 35 and both want kids. We are both tired and my wife wants a nanny. I disagree. What’s the best way to deal with this situation?

My wife and I are both 35. We have been married for about 4 years. I make about 3x her salary and I work very stressful hours. My wife has a 6th grade education and has never worked. I have been trying to convince her to save her money because she doesn’t know how to do anything else and she hasn’t done anything for the last few years. She has been spending a lot of money on clothes and traveling. I do not want her to do anything else because I am a nice man who treats her well. <br><br>We both want kids. We are both done with our 30s and want to settle down. My wife has been wanting a child for years but I was very busy working. I have a lot of vacation saved up and I was thinking we could go on a child free vacation to help us both relax and recharge for when we are ready to start trying. My wife is very stressed out and tired from staying at home all day but she still wants a child. She also wants a nanny which I disagree with. I think she should just do it on her own and I also think that our daughter will be smart if we don’t hire a nanny. My wife thinks she will be too tired from taking care of our daughter. I think she is too lazy to take care of a child on her own and wants a free pass. I think that if we have a child together, we should do it on our own and not rely on anyone else to help us.