Single men over 40 are LITERALLY so disgusting

I'm sick to my stomach. I want to jump out my window because of how sick to my stomach I am -- not that I've ever considered it but I am closer than I've ever been. Sick to my stomach to the point I am crying buckets.<br><br>My single older brother lives in a house of his own. He has his whole life -- he has NEVER in his life lived in a single apartment in ANY apartment complex, and he has NEVER had a roommate in his life. He has always lived completely alone in a HOUSE of his own (my parents aren't wealthy, my brother is just smarter than me). <br><br>He is an incel. He has never had a single date his entire life. He is JA, 41 years old, 5'5", balding, but reasonably slender and not ugly. The problem is he smells.<br><br>It is JA "culture" to not use deodorant. He made it very clear to me he doesn't believe in deodorant. He also never ever wears a single thing that isn't 100% cotton. He refuses to wear ANY synthetic fibers EVER to the point he won't even carry a backpack if the straps are made of nylon. He also refuses to wear ANYTHING that is not 100% cotton (poly blends are a BIG no-no for him). That is another thing that makes him smell. His cotton shirts hold on to moisture and create that brown armpit ring. I have repeatedly asked him to please give his shirts a second wash when he washes his laundry so they stop holding in the stink. <br><br>He also refuses to use ANY laundry detergent "made for men". He wants to smell like a "flower" because he's convinced that ONLY the actual FLOWERS detergent is "feminine enough" to get "the girls". He's tried other "feminine laundry detergents" (Gain, Arm and Hammer, All Free and Clear) but he says FLOWERS is the only thing that helps him "get the girls". I have repeatedly told him that "the girls" don't give a fuck what he uses to wash his clothes with, but he's convinced that the right laundry detergent is all he needs to finally get laid.<br><br>I have repeatedly tried to get him to go to a dermatologist, because he's had bad dandruff since he was a teenager. But he doesn't want to go. He's tried Head and Shoulders Gold but it didn't work. He says "the girls" are too busy laughing at his dandruff to give him a chance.<br><br>Everytime I go to his house I have to tell him to shower because he STINKS. And he always responds, "but I already *did* shower!" He will go weeks without bathing, but he tells me he bathes. I wouldn't care if he stunk up his own house but IT GETS WORSE because he has no problem going out in public like that. He's gone to the grocery store AND the mall many times whilst reeking of BO. The mall in particular is a very crowded enclosed space and I am mortified because he refuses to change his habits. I am mortified by the smell of BO in public. We are Japanese-American and to my brother and I there is NOTHING more embarrassing than a stinky Japanese man.<br><br>I have repeatedly tried to get him to go to the dermatologist to get something for his bad skin. He's had acne since he was a teenager. I have offered to pay for it many many times. I have even given him money to pay for it so he can't say he doesn't have the money to pay for it, but he always ends up spending the money on *anime toys*. I have repeatedly sat him down and gently explained *why* he needs to go to the dermatologist, but he always refuses. I have told him you can't get a gf when you have acne all over your face, he responds "but I already *got* a gf! *and* -- I already *went* to the dermatologist!!" when in reality none of that is true. He's never had a gf nor has he ever gone to a dermatologist.<br><br>I have repeatedly told him he needs to get a haircut. He's had long hair for over a decade. It is literally to his ASS. I have repeatedly begged him to get a pixie cut and he always says no. "But I already *got* a haircut" and "the girls love my hair". In reality none of that is true.<br><br>I get that he refuses to get laid because he's a stupid incel but why does he INSIST on stinking up the air around him? Why does he INSIST on stinking up PUBLIC SPACES with his nasty skin and nasty hair? I am mortified by how nasty he is and how nasty he looks. I am so embarrassed because he is my BROTHER and I can't even take him out to eat anymore because he shows up to the restaurant smelling like a sewer rat.<br><br>This is the kind of thing that makes me hate men so so so so so much. I hate how much my brother smells but I hate how much ALL men stink even more. ALL men reek of BO and ALL of them are just too LAZY to take the 10 minutes it takes to put on deodorant EVERY SINGLE DAY. I wish I could make it illegal for ANY man to leave his house without first putting on deodorant. But I can't because I am just a stupid little 22 y.o. and don't have any power like that lmao.<br><br>So what should I do? I've done everything I can to make him smell better. I even straight up BOUGHT deodorant for him. But he refuses to use it. So what should I do? I don't want to cut ties with him completely because he is my BROTHER. But on the other hand I don't want to feel embarrassed just to be around him.<br><br>USING DEODORANT IS NOT TOO MUCH TO FUCKING ASK, YOU LAZY PIG. BUT IT'S TOO MUCH TO ASK FOR SOME PIG LIKE YOU, ISN'T IT, YOU PIG. YOU PIG YOU PIG YOU PIG YOU PIG YOU PIG YOU PIG YOU PIG YOU PIG YOU FUCKING PIG, GO FUCK YOURSELF. FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU.<br><br>EDIT: I want to say I do appreciate all the kindness I've received so far but it makes me really sad that people are saying I should "call CPS on him". In reality he's a fully functioning -- albeit hideous -- adult. He has a full-time job and pays all his own bills. He drives a car and owns multiple video game systems. The only thing he is incapable of doing is taking care of his own *personal appearance*, and honestly I am very ashamed that my own brother has the personal appearance of a homeless bus stop perv.<br><br>EDIT2: Thank you *so much* for all the kindness I've received from you guys. I didn't expect to get so much sympathy from you all and I want to say I really, really appreciate it. I am trying to reply to as many of you as I can so I apologize if I haven't replied to you yet. I want to say I really, really appreciate your kindness. I didn't expect to get *any* kindness from anyone so thank you so much. I am trying to reply to as many of you as I can so I apologize if I haven't replied to you yet.<br><br>ANOTHER EDIT: *I am trying my best to reply to each of you individually.* I just want to say I appreciate the advice to tell my other JA friends about my brother's stench so hopefully they can get him to see a dermatologist. I am really going to try but I am also a little afraid. My family is literally *the only thing I have* and I am afraid if I openly call out my brother they will all abandon me, so I am afraid to try. I am afraid if they all abandon me then my brother will spend the rest of his life living with me and that would be the death of me. <br><br>I am also afraid of telling my parents because they have previously called me a "stupid little bitch" copypasta for trying to tell them about how much my brother stinks. They told me to stop calling him a bitch and to "get a life". I am 22 now but I was 20 the last time this happened so I am afraid of trying again because I am afraid they will call me a "stupid little bitch" again.<br><br>I am just overall very scared and very confused and very unsure of what to do and very "triggered" tbh. I know my brother will never listen to me so the best thing to do is get someone else to talk to him.<br><br>I just feel so ashamed because NOTHING makes me more ashamed than people around me smelling like BO. EVERY time it happens I want to crawl under a rock and NEVER come out, and my brother is the WORSE offender EVER. He would FUCKING DO IT ON PURPOSE if he could. He would purposely go days without showering just to get a reaction out of me. Men are just so so so so so fucking GROSS to me and my brother is literally the most disgusting one of them all.