I ghosted my sister and her family for the holidays because I couldn't be around her narcissistic assholish son.

I have one sister (mid 30s F). She has 3 kids. One of them is seriously the most infuriating, self-centered little boy ever. I can't. Being around that kid for more than 5 minutes drives me fucking crazy. I love my sister, I love her kids. But I just can't fucking be around her middle son.<br><br>Christmas is usually at my parents, and my sister and her husband and kids usually come up from out of state for several days surrounding the holiday. He is always at my parents house, and he is always in my face, cluttering up my personal space, being very loud and very annoying. It's so hard to explain, he just makes me so angry being around him.<br><br>Last year I tried ignoring him and just not dealing with him but I couldn't escape having to interact. I snapped at him a couple times and my sister got pissed and called me a monster but...I just can't deal with him. He's too much. And no one else will discipline him or say anything to him because they all know how I feel and so my behavior towards him has only made him worse because my sister thinks if she tells him what to do it will look like she's validating me.<br><br>So, this year when my sister asked what my plans were, I said that I was going to be out of state at my friends place and wouldn't be coming to our Christmas. I went to my friends place and blocked all the numbers of everyone in my family to avoid the fallout. When I got home I had dozens of missed calls and voicemails and hundreds of texts from my parents and sister and even some from my cousins who I normally see at Christmas, but I didn't want to deal with any of them if they were going to yell at me biod my behavior towards her shitty fucking kid.<br><br>I just want to live my life and have some peace and not be judged for not being able to be around someone that I just can't stand.