My wife of six years only needed to see one picture to get the truth. This is the story of how it destroyed our six year marriage.

My (f30) wife and I (m34) were married for six years. We were together for 15. That means we were together before the advent of social media back in the old days of email addresses and flip phones. We were high school sweethearts, got pregnant at 18, miscarried, and married at 19. We were each other's first "I love you." We had a rocky marriage at the beginning, both of us barely adults and trying to find our way in the world. After the miscarriage, we were suicidal and separated for two years. It put a strain on our marriage. There were trust issues, a suicide attempt, lots of arguments. But we were able to work through them. We eventually had three children, went on vacations together, spent time apart each month to improve our relationship, shared our exes with each other, and had a great group of friends. Six years ago, we were able to finally afford a house. I bought her the wedding ring she had always wanted and we were able to move out of a small apartment. During this time, we only had one child. Our second was born the year after we bought our house. I'll refer to him as B (m2). Then, a year later, our daughter was born. I'll call her E (f2).<br><br>E was a micro premie. She was born at 1 pound, 23 weeks old and having a heart defect. We were back and forth with the NICU and had a very strained marriage during the first two years of her life. After six months, we were finally able to bring her home. During that time, I had an affair with one of my coworkers, which obviously destroyed the trust in our marriage. We were able to get past it and about 7 months later, she was able to trust me again. We had just moved to a new house. I got a new job and we were able to hire a nanny. When we first met our nanny, she was 16. She was the daughter of a friend's girlfriend. The father was a police officer and also a friend. He hit on my wife a few times until she told me. We cut contact and he moved to another state. Our nanny was in high school, but my wife didn't like it when I was alone with her. She would come home from work early to end our alone time together. Things just weren't going well. Last December, our nanny was filling out her college applications and my wife and I would sit together on the couch and stare at one another for hours while our nanny worked her magic on all three kids. We were just emotionally and physically dead. I could tell my wife was having an affair, but I just didn't want to know.<br><br>Flash forward to the summer. Our nanny was a lot closer to my wife. She was 18 now, getting ready to start college. Our nanny's father was a police officer. My wife's affair partner was in the police force. My wife was just too trusting of our nanny and too open with all of her comings and goings. I overheard them in the living room talking about their "other lives." It seemed so suspsicious. Flash back a few months before, when our nanny/ babysitter started texting our nanny/ babysitter's boyfriend instead of my wife after I got home from work. It was weird. The nanny offered to babysit for free the whole month of August because she wanted to spend time with the kids before leaving. I was ready for a divorce, but my wife wasn't. She cried. She said she loved me, but we needed time apart. She didn't want a divorce. I told her I wanted out of the marriage. I didn't love her anymore. I was tired of the tears and the screaming, the affairs, the depression, the job loss, the health problems. We put our house up for sale and told our nanny we were separated. The nanny was shocked. She had no idea. We didn't fight often.<br><br>Here's where the story gets interesting. In my wife's version of the story, she got suspicious when she saw one of our pictures. We took a trip to Miami during which she accused me of having an affair with our nanny. I denied it. She told me it was inappropriate that we were bathing together, getting massages together, and that I was "touching" our nanny inappropriately. I explained we were bathing our kids and I had no idea she had already bathed them. We both got in the tub and held the kids while our nanny watched our other child swim. She was there! After the bathing, we got a couples massage with our nanny and some friends who were in town. We didn't "touch" each other during the massage. After the massage, a friend invited us to his room to hang out. His roommate was there with his girlfriend. There was no sleeping involved. It was just a chill, 420 vibe. I had no idea she was still mad at me. She flipped out when she saw one of the pictures. It wasn't from that night. I have no knowledge of when it was taken. The picture is of me naked on the balcony. It was from the waist up. Our nanny was in the picture. She was totally covered, sitting on the floor. My wife accused me of having an affair with our nanny of two years, calling me a pedophile and a child abuser. She was screaming through the house, waking up the kids. I told her it was not appropriate. I said that our nanny was an adult. She thought our nanny was 16, but she was actually 19. She said I was touching our nanny. I threatened to call the police and said she needed to get out. She said she was going to call CPS and have them take our kids away. I flipped out and told her I was going to call my lawyer. She said she was going to leave the house and the marriage. She left while I was crying in our bedroom. We haven't spoken since. I called my in laws and they picked me up. I had to call my ex girlfriend and have her pick up our kids. Our nanny is devastated. I called my ex girlfriend again and asked her to pick up our kids. Our nanny is devastated. She says she'll quit her job, but I don't think that's necessary. She has bills to pay and a new college to attend. She's just a kid. She felt like part of the family and now she's losing her second family of six years. She wants to press charges. I told her to just wait.<br><br>My wife has been back to the house three times since she kicked me out. The first time, she threw all of my clothes in the trash. I called the police and they came to pick up my clothes. The second time, she came to pick up all of my dog's belongings. I called animal control, who called the police. They came to pick up my wife and said she was trespassing. The last time she came to the house, she screamed and called me a pedophile. I recorded it. I'm going to the police station soon to press charges. My in laws are calling CPS. My ex girlfriend and our nanny and I are going to take a polygraph test to show my wife we aren't having an affair with our nanny. I screenshot all of her messages and they're sending them to her lawyer. I screenshot all of our messages calling me and our nanny pedophiles and I'm sending them to her lawyer. My dad is calling her parents. They know nothing about the recent events and think we're just separated. My ex girlfriend and I are each going to get an order of protection. My kids will continue to see our nanny. Our nanny will continue to press charges. My parents will take the kids. My in laws will get the dogs. I hope my wife gets the help she needs.