I [26m] told to my girlfriend [25f] that she should get a new job or hire help because she can't do everything as before after having our baby. She told me to do the chores. How can we find a compromise?

I know this kind of questions are very common here, but I think I need advice because I don't want to fight with her.<br><br>We had a baby girl 3 months ago and I can see that she struggles a bit with everything. She goes to work and PTA our child. And of course does a lot of chores like laundry, cooking, etc.<br><br>The problem is that I started to see her less since she had the baby. I understand that she is now a mother and the baby is young and needs her, but I think we need to see each other more since our baby is older.<br><br>I told her yesterday that maybe she needs to hire help or ask her family for it. Or maybe she should find a remote job so she can be with the baby and hire help to do the chores.<br><br>I don't do much of the chores, I work 12 hrs shifts and I'm a truck driver, so she understands that I don't have the time for it and I do it when I have days off. But one day I did the laundry and the dishes and etc, and she told me that I need to do it everyday.<br><br>I don't mind doing chores, but doing them everyday is exhausting if I work 12 hrs and also commute 1 hr or more daily, and I feel she doesn't understand how having to do it everyday is hard for somebody that works a long shift.<br><br>I know that maybe I'm a**hole for hiring somebody to do the chores, but I just want to be able to spend more time with her and our baby.<br><br>So, what can we do to find a compromise? Or is it better for me to just do the chores daily? Even if it makes me tired?<br><br>UPDATE: I think we'll talk this weekend about having help, but it seems she's willing to hire someone. She talked about maybe having her mom live with us for some time, which would be really good because she's retired and would be able to help with the chores and the baby.<br><br>I'll do all the chores this week because she's very tired and has been working a lot so it will give her time to rest more.<br><br>I'll update after our baby falls sleep and we can talk. I'll also start doing a chore a day from now on, in addition to the ones I do in my days off.<br><br>And I'll add my job hours next time. I work from 6AM to 8PM or 10PM depending on the route. But thank you for the advice, I'll make sure to hire somebody this weekend if she agrees.<br><br>Also, I feel very attacked by some comments, a lot of them are from people that clearly have never met me or know what happened. I don't want to fight with her over the chores, I feel like it's not worth and she has enough already. I'm trying to find a solution to this situation, and hiring help would help us to have more time for us and our baby.<br><br>UPDATE 2: We talked last night and she said she would prefer if she mom lives with us permanently. She asked me to build her a room and told me that she's going to call her later in the week to talk to her and ask her about it. I said it's fine and that I can start building it later this month or early next month.<br><br>Over the weekend, we'll hire a person to help us with the chores and we'll help them with the chores until her mom moves with us.<br><br>I also talked to her about the PTA and she said she will leave it once the year is over. And she will start working on interviewing nannies. I told her I would rather have her family, but she told me again that hiring a nanny is better and she can spend more time with her at the weekends.<br><br>I'm not too sure about it, but I told her that I would rather have her family, but she told me that the nanny will be a family member as well. So, I feel like she's not really hearing me and what I want.<br><br>For me, it would be better to have her family and have us 4 living together. But I also understand that her family would have to move from their town and I would have to build a bigger house for all of us.<br><br>We'll have to talk more about it, but for now, we'll buy a 3 bedroom apartment for us and the nanny and her daughter. And if she decides to hire her mom instead, we'll sell the apartment and build a bigger house for us.<br><br>I'm worried she's going to change her mind about her family and hire the nanny. I don't want to have the nanny living with us, but I understand it's what she wants.<br><br>I just feel like my opinion doesn't matter to her, but maybe I just feel this way because I'm feeling that I've failed as a provider for her and our baby.<br><br>UPDATE 3: She talked to her family last night and they accepted to live with us. Her sister said that she would buy their house and they would live there, since she couldn't sell her practice. So, her mom and dad and younger brother will live here with us.<br><br>So, we'll start building the house next year and her family will come to live with us as soon as we move.<br><br>She told me she'll talk to her boss to start working remotely after the pandemic, because she would prefer to be home and care for our baby herself.<br><br>She said she would ask for Monday and Tuesday off and work from home those days and we would hire a nanny to care for our baby the rest of the week.<br><br>Or maybe she'll ask her family to care for her, but I told her it would be better to hire a nanny, because her mom and dad aren't young anymore and would need to rest.<br><br>I also talked to her about the PTA and she told me she would ask her sister to help her, because it's exhausting to care for everything and she would probably leave the PTA as well.<br><br>I feel like the decisions we made would help a lot and we'll all be able to rest more at home.<br><br>UPDATE 4: We talked to our principal and he told us to talk to the director because he couldn't do anything for us.<br><br>We talked to the director and he told us that if we hire a principal and a vice principal, he'll hire them and we won't have to do that job anymore.<br><br>We told him we would think about it and give him an answer.<br><br>And we talked all day about it, our family about it as well. And we decided we would hire somebody. <br><br>So, we're going to put an announcement on some newspapers and job seeking websites this weekend and hopefully, we'll find somebody.<br><br>And she told me yesterday that she will ask her boss on Monday to change her schedule. She wants to work from home twice a week and the rest of the time go to the office.<br><br>I told her that I would prefer if she just worked from home everyday, but she told me that isn't possible.<br><br>EDIT: I think some of you think we make a lot of money because we're hiring a nanny and a principal or vice principal, but it's not the case. She comes from a wealthy family and owns a lot of assets. So, we're actually quite rich.