Men who are in abusive relationships need to get out

I saw a post on r/relationship_advice yesterday that made me sick and it was from a guy who’s gf is into some extreme kink shit that he doesn’t enjoy, and she wants to take it to the next level and it seems like she’s forcing him to. <br><br>I’m going to post a link to that post if anyone wants to see it. I don’t want to post a link to it here.<br><br>He is in love with her, but he doesn’t want to do what she’s asking of him. He thinks it’s only fair that she lets him opt out if she wants to do something that he doesn’t want to do. <br><br>She’s into extreme kink shit like being urinated on, defecated on, being spanked until bleeding, being flogged, etc. She has some physical medical conditions that could be exacerbated by the acts she wants to do. He doesn’t want to take the risk of her having a life threatening condition and he doesn’t want to do these acts, and he’s not even interested in her. <br><br>I am just so sorry for him because I would never want to be in a position where I would have to choose between being in a relationship with someone that I don’t even like or love, or not being in a relationship with anyone at all. I don’t know how I would feel about that. I don’t know if I would just prefer being single for the rest of my life. I’m not even sure if I would be interested in sex again. <br><br>I also don’t know how I would feel about dating someone else who I would enjoy having sex with, but I guess I would just have to wait and see how I feel. Maybe I wouldn’t date at all.<br><br>But for people in abusive relationships, I want you to know that you don’t have to stay. I know that sometimes people don’t leave their abusers because they’re in love with them and they don’t want to hurt them or leave them alone. But I just want you to know that it’s not fair for you to have to risk your life and well being for someone who doesn’t treat you with love, kindness, respect and care. <br><br>If you are in an abusive relationship, please be careful and get help if you can. Please take care of yourselves. <br><br>I don’t know how I would feel if I was in an abusive relationship and I would never want to put myself in that position, but I know that it is better to leave an abusive relationship.