Don't want to be a microwaveable meal for my kid

To all the women out there that say that we should happy to give up our bodies for 9 months to create a beautiful miracle:<br><br>Well, that's fucking selfish and I couldn't disagree more.<br><br>As a father I don't get to "carry my child for a miracle" or "breast feed for nutrition and a happy baby" or a whole host of other things. Why should I be expected to feel happy watching my wife go through the biggest transformation of her body just to spew out our baby for me to help raise?<br><br>This should be 100% her decision if I happen to impregnate her. I don't get a choice in a life altering change for me should she decide to keep the baby and raise it.<br><br>EDIT: interesting discussion, love it. Couple of points to address - I understand women are much more invested in the whole process of child delivery and so forth, I do not dispute that. My wife and I are considering terminating our pregnancy as we have a young child together already and feel that raising the new child, if it were to come to that, would be detrimental to our current child. We have discussed at length, the decision to terminate the pregnancy but she still gets full bodily autonomy say over the decision, whilst I do not - and so far, I have zero issues with that, as it should be that way. <br><br>Apologies if this post has come off insensitive, I did not mean it like that. I can fully understand a lot of women have to go through pregnancy/ delivery against their will. I do not dispute that.<br><br>&#x200B;<br><br>tl;dr: I do not want to give up my autonomy for a kid should my wife decide to keep it, especially if I don't want to be a dad (This was initially for a hypothetical situation and to spark a discussion, but we managed to have a lot more children since.)